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Skippy01

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Skippy01

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I thought I would bring one of my random google searches in for a public debate.26% of women think watching porn behind their back,counts towards cheating.16% of men admit to flirty messages behind their partners back,but doesn't think its cheating ,rather being friendly.So what do you think? Would you willingly flirt back with an attached person? Do you agree with attached people joining sites for friendship and company,or is it still in the cheating category?
 
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Lips_Pearls

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Skippy01 said:
I thought I would bring one of my random google searches in for a public debate.26% of women think watching porn behind their back,counts towards cheating.16% of men admit to flirty messages behind their partners back,but doesn't think its cheating ,rather being friendly.So what do you think? Would you willingly flirt back with an attached person? Do you agree with attached people joining sites for friendship and company,or is it still in the cheating category?
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Okay a golden rule I became quite aware of a few years ago and tend to stick by - though many won’t agree in this scene… The minute you start flirty chatting or texting or messages without your OH knowing: you’re doing wrong.

Now, have we met anyone with a partner? Yes. But with his consent. He even wanted a brew with us a few days later, which I kindly declined tbh.

Otherwise, behind someone’s back? Never.
I think for us, that’s one step too far and in this lifestyle it’s an unwritten rule isn’t it.
It wrecks relationships, hurts innocent people and they’re just lying all around.
To us, to the community, to themselves and worst of all to their loved ones. X
 
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Skippy01

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Lips_Pearls said:
Okay a golden rule I became quite aware of a few years ago and tend to stick by - though many won’t agree in this scene… The minute you start flirty chatting or texting or messages without your OH knowing: you’re doing wrong.

Now, have we met anyone with a partner? Yes. But with his consent. He even wanted a brew with us a few days later, which I kindly declined tbh.

Otherwise, behind someone’s back? Never.
I think for us, that’s one step too far and in this lifestyle it’s an unwritten rule isn’t it.
It wrecks relationships, hurts innocent people and they’re just lying all around.
To us, to the community, to themselves and worst of all to their loved ones. X
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To me I always think of it as,all words and actions have thoughts behind them.I won't begin to understand why people feel the need to cheat, because i've never been in a situation that I would want to.
But in my eyes if your o/h doesn't know about it, and it's something you daren't tell them then it's deceitful.Porn is completely acceptable and the women who have an issue with it,probably have insecurities or are bunny boilers.Anysort of sexual conduct, whether texts,flirting ,coffee etc, with real life people is a no go for me, unless it's been discussed and allowed x
 
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Skippy01 said:
I thought I would bring one of my random google searches in for a public debate.26% of women think watching porn behind their back,counts towards cheating.16% of men admit to flirty messages behind their partners back,but doesn't think its cheating ,rather being friendly.So what do you think? Would you willingly flirt back with an attached person? Do you agree with attached people joining sites for friendship and company,or is it still in the cheating category?
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If flirting and looking at porn is cheating then I have been cheating on all my partners since around 1987 ??

N xxx
 
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Skippy01 said:
I thought I would bring one of my random google searches in for a public debate.26% of women think watching porn behind their back,counts towards cheating.16% of men admit to flirty messages behind their partners back,but doesn't think its cheating ,rather being friendly.So what do you think? Would you willingly flirt back with an attached person? Do you agree with attached people joining sites for friendship and company,or is it still in the cheating category?
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Stop looking up random shit you weirdo
 
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Skippy01 said:
I thought I would bring one of my random google searches in for a public debate.26% of women think watching porn behind their back,counts towards cheating.16% of men admit to flirty messages behind their partners back,but doesn't think its cheating ,rather being friendly.So what do you think? Would you willingly flirt back with an attached person? Do you agree with attached people joining sites for friendship and company,or is it still in the cheating category?
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Watching porn? No. Simple answer for a simple question.

Flirting is a more complicated… I guess it comes down to the reason and intention for the flirting.

(With vanishingly rare exceptions, though, I’ve never understood flirting… and again, with rare exceptions, I never notice when someone‘s flirting with me. And I never notice if someone is ‘harmlessly’ fliirting with me, or realise nothing more than flirting is intended.)
 
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Watching porn in my opinion is not cheating flirting on the other hand is to a point. I think most of us have at one time flirted with someone else, knowing that they have a partner or not and respected certain boundaries. Its what happens afterwards is the the decider. If you take it further than harmless banter then it cheating. This is only my opinion and I know some will agree and some will not. Everyone will have a different taken on this, so is there a right or wrong answer. I suppose it depends on the individuals concerned.
 
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