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Bonker

Have to admit it's quite hard to put yourself out there, kind of feel a bit exposed.....no pun intended lol
 
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Have to admit it's quite hard to put yourself out there, kind of feel a bit exposed.....no pun intended lol
It is.. because you are exposing yourself.. Not an easy feat whatsoever. Challenging too. But with the right esteem and confidence - people will pick up on that.
That said, it can be soul destroying at times too. Know all about that!
 
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Bonker

Yup hear ya there......best advice I think is not to come across as a 'tool' looking for a free shag
 
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Dragonflypussy69

I met up with a girl and her partner, using the Adultwork site and twitter, in a local Liverpool hotel last May, my first MMF. A stunning girl with a great body and such an appetite for sex. Tried to do all sorts in the hour, but left very satisfied and with her wet thong wrapped around my pierced cock. Roll on to the next time she visits my home town.
 
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kopinov

I'm afraid my first time wasn't all that great, as I posted elsewhere...

My first experience was through another site, since defunct. I had arranged to meet a younger couple at a pub. We met but after a short time they got a little nervous, so the three of us moved on to a different pub. We chatted over a drink and talked about various things while we decided if we were 'compatible'.

They were new to swinging too but we soon agreed we should go back to their house, where we sat and chatted some more in the lounge. I felt a bit odd as they were continuously checking their mobile phones and, when I asked about it, they told me that if they didn't keep them switched on and answering their texts his psycho mate was likely to take a strop and come round and kick their front door in, regardless of the time of day or night.

I really should have listened to the alarm bells in my head but I was partly distracted by his hand down the front of her track pants and her hips moving as she became more and more aroused as he played with her. It was pretty clear that she wanted to go upstairs to the bedroom right away, but he seemed a bit hesitant.

Eventually, though, we all went up and undressed and got into their bed. I'd expected that they would switch their phones off but they kept looking at them and responding to texts. Despite this, she really enjoyed the attentions of her partner and me together and had several loud and wet orgasms. I also enjoyed her touching me but I couldn't think sufficiently beyond their texting to really get into it.

After a while, after playing with her while he penetrated her, I was offered my turn. Sadly, I still couldn't get past my concerns about the phones (still on and IN the bed) or the idea that some nutter might kick the door in at any time. I couldn't bring myself to do proper justice to the occasion... so I made my apologies and left.

Not really the most auspicious start to my journey, I know, and I regretted not listening to my intuition earlier. I also think it didn't help that we were all completely new to this kind of situation.

So there we are - my first innept and hasty stumble into the world of swinging. On the up side, I've had some wonderful experiences since then... so at least not everything that starts shakily has to continue that way.
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... apologies for the echo.
 
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Midland....

My first time was not that long ago relatively speaking. A couple who I knew and socialised with had mentioned it a few times during drunken moments but I just passed it off as the booze talking. They are in an open relationship and one evening the lady in the relationship mentioned whilst very drunk how much she wanted to sleep with me and to my surprise her husband was all for it. After a few great sex meets on our own this developed in to mmf scenarios and a bit of cuckolding. I didn't go looking for it but over time the relationship developed in to it which I suppose is a good way for it to happen. That was my first real experience of the lifestyle though I have seen a few single people since
 
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peakcouple

We both had our first group-sex experiences when we were late teens, both when we had left home, G to work in London and R to go to uni. It wasn't serious swinging, just occasional drunken party sex. Our first swing together was at La Chambre quite soon after we had met, we didn't swap on our first visit but loved being with others in the playrooms and pool. We went back at least once a month, and our next time we did our first soft-swing swap and a couple of months later had our first full swap. That was 12 years ago and we've been swinging happily and regularly ever since.

We had both been naturists for years and maybe our early experiences made things easier, on our first club visit it just seemed natural and right to be nude among groups of fucking couples, neither of us were shocked or embarrassed, more like excited.
 
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I was on a night out with my then partner, meeting his friend and gf. As soon as I saw her, I knew I wanted her. There was an instant spark. We were flirty all night and the guys picked up on it.
At the end of the evening, we invited them back to ours. The guys dared us to kiss and it went from there. FF fun then with the guys joining in for a 4sum, then a full swap. All felt very natural, I loved it.
 
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Ours was all planned. We picked a couple off a site like this who had quite a few meets under the belt as we thought this would help us as they would lead us. Well what a disaster it was. The fem got very drunk indeed in our house (6 bottles of red) to the point we all started to play but I put a stop to playing as she was in no fit state to agree or otherwise to anything so I was uncomfortable having sex with her.
 
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Midland....

Ours was all planned. We picked a couple off a site like this who had quite a few meets under the belt as we thought this would help us as they would lead us. Well what a disaster it was. The fem got very drunk indeed in our house (6 bottles of red) to the point we all started to play but I put a stop to playing as she was in no fit state to agree or otherwise to anything so I was uncomfortable having sex with her.
Oh that doesn't sound good!
 
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Turnuptheheat

Although I (Mr) had had some experiences before, we took a long time finding our feet in this world. We'd spoken at length about boundaries, looked online and chatted to some couples before finally biting the bullet and attending a club (VA). First time there we were like rabbits in headlights, it took a few visits just to loosen up and be ourselves. Having still not played with anyone other than ourselves we were invited to a party last summer. As people went off to play later in the evening 3 of the ladies went upstairs, with a couple of guys watching the show from the bedroom door, Mrs Tuth and I joined the voyeurs before one of the ladies in the bedroom beckoned her in.. it turned into a 4 girl and 2 guy play, quite a baptism of fire, we were only soft swap at the time but it was an experience I'll never forget! I'd almost started to think it would never happen but once we'd broken our duck we re-evaluated our boundaries, to pretty much "go with the flow"..
 
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Midland....

Although I (Mr) had had some experiences before, we took a long time finding our feet in this world. We'd spoken at length about boundaries, looked online and chatted to some couples before finally biting the bullet and attending a club (VA). First time there we were like rabbits in headlights, it took a few visits just to loosen up and be ourselves. Having still not played with anyone other than ourselves we were invited to a party last summer. As people went off to play later in the evening 3 of the ladies went upstairs, with a couple of guys watching the show from the bedroom door, Mrs Tuth and I joined the voyeurs before one of the ladies in the bedroom beckoned her in.. it turned into a 4 girl and 2 guy play, quite a baptism of fire, we were only soft swap at the time but it was an experience I'll never forget! I'd almost started to think it would never happen but once we'd broken our duck we re-evaluated our boundaries, to pretty much "go with the flow"..
Sounds like a great way to start, taking your time and getting comfortable without rushing.
 
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NigelandJulie

Not long after starting swinging we got talking to a couple online, after a few nights of chatting they invited us over to theirs with a no strings attached arrangement, bring a overnight bag and if it happens it happens and if it don't we can have a few beers and a laugh. Well we met up in their local pub only about 30 miles from where we live and the conversation was going well when out of the blue the other female said well are you coming back then ( we had already given each other a nudge our little signal that we were happy with them). On arrival at theirs the other lady went into the bedroom while her hubby made a cuppa, when she returned to the living room she had changed into something a little. racey, well by now the conversations were getting more &more to the point and then the girls started kissing and fondling and that was the start of such an amazing night, think we got into bed at 6.40 am totally knackered, around a 9 hour session for us all, it was their first time as well, boy what a night never got a repeat performance, shame.
 
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Ten years ago (Crikey! Hadn't realised it was that long ago) I was with someone who was aware of the 'scene' but had never visited a club, not for want of trying. She had a deep seated desire to experiment with her bi side and we arranged to visit and join OP4F, AbFabs and Arousals over the course of a few weekends.

At our first visit (OP4F) we met an MF couple of osteopathy students and we got into a conversation with them about a variety of things, everything from the evidence base for osteopathy (randomised controlled trials, for example) to the weather.

After a period of 45 minutes to an hour my partner excused herself and visited the ladies room, and was joined by the F half of the other couple. When they returned she surreptitiously deposited her underwear in my trouser pocket, and between them they had agreed where they would play and what our involvement as males would be.

All four of us visited the lockable room at OP4F which, as those of you who've visited will know, has a semi-transparent mirrored window. My partner and the F of the partner undressed each other and enjoyed each other whilst I and the other M provided some form of attention to our partners.

When done, we dressed, moved back to the bar and spent a further pleasant couple of hours with them in conversation before we returned to our respective homes.
 
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