Go and make a cup of tea, this is a long post! Very much off topic but I really need other people's opinions. So here's the story: My (ex, maybe) best friend and I had a falling out last year. She wanted me to go the cinema with her for her birthday. I couldn't because at the time, I was in a job where I had to get up at 5am to start work at 6. I asked if we could go to the showing before the time she wanted to go, because I can't afford to get home late, eat, get ready for the following day and go to work tired and the chances are, during a late showing I would fall asleep during the film, which would be a waste of money. She said no, there was no way she would change the time of the film, so I declined and told her, well I'm sorry but I can't go. Then I have a text message from her telling me that she's feeling let down by me and how disappointed that I won't be there. The point is, we've been friends since school, I have never missed her birthday, I have always gone to the cinema with her on her birthday, and she's got her arse in her hand because I can't go. I offered to take her card and present and meet her there, but I explained again that I'm at work and there's not a lot I can do. Her response "I don't want a present, I want my friend and don't bother". I met her there anyway with said present, she told me that she thinks I'm patronising because I explained why I couldn't go, and she wants to see me before she goes away on holiday. I told her I'd look at my rota, but I don't know when I'm off. We left it at that, and we haven't spoken since (in between all this, there was a snotty Facebook comment from her sister, and a couple of those stupid angry Like emoticons on a post of mine, all of which I ignored). Now, her sister has messaged me and asked if I could send her a special video message for her 30th Birthday. And I'm thinking, nay feckin' chance, why should I? Firstly, said friend has always been selfish during our friendship. She expects me to pick her up and take her back home if we go out or a coffee or catch-up, she never asks how I am or what I'm upto because she's too busy talking about herself, her boyfriend and their problems, she treats him like shit (which I've always told her about), she's incredibly self-centered and hasn't bothered to try and talk to me since her birthday last year. I realised that we were in a narcissist / empath relationship (go read about it, honestly it's really interesting), and since stopping communication I have felt better in myself. The reason why I haven't contacted her is because she's so selfish and self-involved I can't stand it anymore. She's going to need me, a lot sooner than I will need her. Question is, should I just make the stupid birthday video or not bother? My gut is telling why should I bother when she's so selfish (and the KNOWS she is!), when she couldn't even take my circumstancesinto account and accept that I won't jump on command.