Do you feel you are tolerated in this lifestyle?
I personally have no issue with anyone and have made great friends with all including gents. I am aware that other sites are very discriminating against single guys but I have never seen it here.
Sorry, I copied the original OP across so I could respond to the question. Firstly, not massively keen on the word "tolerated" but understand where you are coming from. From my own personal experience of this site and others over the last ten years or so, I have found that I am a welcomed member of the scene. Generally I will involve myself in the forums or chat, display a range of photos and try to articulate myself as I am. Now I know this isn't for everyone; regardless of the critiques of some on forums and in chat, there are women and couples out there just looking for sex with a stranger, so a "refined" or "intelligent" profile will not impact them (please note I am not saying I am either refined or intelligent, however I think there is a difference between "here's my knob, who wants a fuck" and "I would like to get to know you so I can push the right buttons, by the way, heres my knob")
Now the former fellas can do well with the right type (for them) couple or single female. Whereas the latter will get the cold shoulder. Some people just want to meet other people for sex and it's a brief encounter that requires zero expose of personality, just sexual ability.
The flip side is, that people that actively engage in forums and other elements of social interaction are more predisposed to want more than a demonstration of sexual ability and thus generally meet people of a similar mind. So in effect we have two silos of members on any site we are on. Generally (and I may be hugely wrong, but this is my experience), there are more people that just want to engage in "throwaway sex" than "getting to know someone sex". I based this on a number of factors but primarily just how small a percentage of people actually take part in the social parts of a website, forum users are usually in the minority (this site is built differently and therefore is likely to attract differently minded people).
However (writing a thesis here) the former "throwaway sex" type of people (once again in my experience) are not true "life stylers", but are fulfilling fantasies or between relationships; they pick up and put down the site as and when they need to, and it works for them.
The main problem occurs when the former group enters into the social side with comments like "does size matter", "why can't I get a meet" etc. The reality is they are asking the right question to the wrong group of people and the answers they will get will seek to humiliate them or portray them as neanderthals..... so (and this is where I finally get around to answering your question OP!) Some sites appear to discriminate against single guys, because the cross over between "throwaway fuck" and "getting to know someone fuck" has failed... they are held up as idiots and fools and to the casual observer this would appear that single guys are viewed negatively within the scene. The reality is, that expecting random, spare of the minute fucking from a group of people who usually take time to develop some form of friendship will be met with distaste and the comments will reflect this.
As I say, I do okay, but that's because (I think) I understand what someone wants before offering it to them and tailoring my profile/pics to the tastes of the kind of people I would like to meet. If I wanted to just meet people for throwaway, wham bam, I could build a profile for that, remove myself from social interaction and play the numbers game.
People always say that "patience" is the key for a single guy to get a meet. I am afraid they are wrong. "Focus" is the key to a single guy getting a meet. Don't scattershot, tailor your profile to your desires and you will be amazed at which silo you end up falling into....
There that was a lot of nonsense wasn't it?
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