"so, How Did You Get Into Swinging?"

[sthwalescpl]

It's a question that comes up in any conversation amongst swingers.
Our "journey" started years and years ago.
We met and got involved in a relationship when we were teenagers, and fell madly in love.
We didn't have much money when we moved in together, but found that sex was fun, and free!
After a few years we found that we liked to talk during sex, about how much we enjoyed certain things, about what turned us on...and eventually we talked about, and then tried, various things, fantasies etc.
Eventually, we started fantasising about other people, and this became a big part of sex for us. We found that we didn't get jealous talking about other people, and it got us seriously turned on.
So....the next step...yup, going from talking about it in bed, to talking about it in the cold light of day. We discussed it...…..a lot...…...no, you aint getting it...……..I mean A LOT, months went by, and we chatted about different scenarios, what was hot, and what wasn't... and mostly we talked about us, how we felt about it.
The biggest turn-on was Jayne with another woman, it sent her wild when we talked about it...and I was pretty keen too lol!
Then the day came, when we just said, "lets do it".
We hit the t'interwebby, and eventually found a site, and registered.
We chatted for a while, and then eventually bit the bullet and accepted an invite from a couple to meet.
We booked a hotel, travelled over, and then hit the pub where we were to meet, to say we were nervous is probably the understatement of the decade, but it was an excited kind of nervous.
We knew from camming with them that they were genuine, and we knew what they looked like.
They arrived, and after a couple of drinks, we all seemed to be getting along well. Jayne and I had developed a code to let each other know if we wanted to go further, and it was all systems go.
I asked if they wanted to go to our hotel.
What followed was an entire night of fun of all kinds, we even stopped, got dressed, went for food, came back and got stuck in again lol.
It was a great intro into swinging, and if anything made us want more.... and more!

Since then, (10 years ago) we have tried another 2 sites, and had all sorts of fun, from parties, socials, clubs, events and meets, and have done things that some wait an entire swinging... career(?) to experience. Jayne was a confirmed Bi-bunny from that first kiss she shared with the other lady on our first meet, and is never happier than when she is wrapped around a lady, getting hot and steamy, and me, well, so long as she's happy, I'm happy, we play as a couple, in 3sums, 4sums and moresums, so there's plenty of fun for everyone!

 

[Pearls]

It's a question that comes up in any conversation amongst swingers.
Our "journey" started years and years ago.
We met and got involved in a relationship when we were teenagers, and fell madly in love.
We didn't have much money when we moved in together, but found that sex was fun, and free!
After a few years we found that we liked to talk during sex, about how much we enjoyed certain things, about what turned us on...and eventually we talked about, and then tried, various things, fantasies etc.
Eventually, we started fantasising about other people, and this became a big part of sex for us. We found that we didn't get jealous talking about other people, and it got us seriously turned on.
So....the next step...yup, going from talking about it in bed, to talking about it in the cold light of day. We discussed it...…..a lot...…...no, you aint getting it...……..I mean A LOT, months went by, and we chatted about different scenarios, what was hot, and what wasn't... and mostly we talked about us, how we felt about it.
The biggest turn-on was Jayne with another woman, it sent her wild when we talked about it...and I was pretty keen too lol!
Then the day came, when we just said, "lets do it".
We hit the t'interwebby, and eventually found a site, and registered.
We chatted for a while, and then eventually bit the bullet and accepted an invite from a couple to meet.
We booked a hotel, travelled over, and then hit the pub where we were to meet, to say we were nervous is probably the understatement of the decade, but it was an excited kind of nervous.
We knew from camming with them that they were genuine, and we knew what they looked like.
They arrived, and after a couple of drinks, we all seemed to be getting along well. Jayne and I had developed a code to let each other know if we wanted to go further, and it was all systems go.
I asked if they wanted to go to our hotel.
What followed was an entire night of fun of all kinds, we even stopped, got dressed, went for food, came back and got stuck in again lol.
It was a great intro into swinging, and if anything made us want more.... and more!

Since then, (10 years ago) we have tried another 2 sites, and had all sorts of fun, from parties, socials, clubs, events and meets, and have done things that some wait an entire swinging... career(?) to experience. Jayne was a confirmed Bi-bunny from that first kiss she shared with the other lady on our first meet, and is never happier than when she is wrapped around a lady, getting hot and steamy, and me, well, so long as she's happy, I'm happy, we play as a couple, in 3sums, 4sums and moresums, so there's plenty of fun for everyone!

Love it, very similar to our experience

 

[GeoffRy]

My 1st time with a guy was shit. I was too young and he was the ex of a school friend & just wanted a fuck.
All the "popular girls" were getting laid by anything with a pulse & bragging about it I thought that must mean I'm gay!
A friend of mine admitted she had a crush on me but she had a GF at the time already. I kept that in my head for a year or so whilst with my controlling/jealous xBF who was a massive homophobe . I had a night at the friend's house (both of them) and we ended up having sex. Yes, my first time was a 3some. But that was also shit. I didnt have a clue what to do and they were pretty full on. However, it was a great way to tell the ex to get lost. Fast forward to meeting G.
I was 3wks from 17 (yes I was a promiscuous teen - not proud!
1st conversation we ever had alone was me informing him that I was bi and that if that was an issue then fine, but it wouldnt work.
He loved that! We had LOTS of sex (eventually - he took some persuading once he found out my age)
We read porn together, and talked (half jokingly) about meeting someone from an ad in Escort mag (Classy!)
Thankfully that never happened. He knew that there is a part of me that he CANT do anything to satisfy, and as long as I dont hide he's fine with tales of conquests!
I met a woman. HOT ginger! I told him about her and starting dating her so to speak. We all went on night out etc.
One night we all house sat for his mum . Picture this - Snow (Deep snow) Clear starlit sky, hot tub under a pagoda in a HE_UGE garden. No neighbours. Drinks consumed, swimwear fell off (on it's own... honest... no idea how that happened), and after a fun fumble in the tub we ran naked across the snow, steam trail following us through our molten footprints, into the house to continue the fun on a fur rug in front of a coal fire! You cant make this shit up! It was incredible!
Next morning I was wary as I was convinced he now fancied her more than me and it would all be ruined. However, we chatted all day about it, like grown ups (I was 18) and we were more than fine. We continued enjoying our unconventional relationship for about another year until I got pregnant, at which point she graciously (but at the time, to me, devastatingly) bowed out in order to allow us to marry and become a family.
It was 4 yrs later that he convinced me that our vows made US,but didnt change what we have. I met a girl. We did the same 3 way stuff (but without the tub) for about another year. Still not believing we were swingers. There have been others, but I ramble already.
We have talked for several years about the idea of play with another couple, even suggesting to each other people that we know, to see how the idea sits. One of those couples has divorced (not guilty) and the other are strictly each other's, though we do all flirt like c-razy together! Hence the step into the unknown with this site. It's so hard to open up to people about such a taboo subject, we thought it was time (22yrs on) to dive in and try rather than one day wish we had whilst we still had our own hips.
Our kids have been raised to know that love is what it is, and to love someone who loves them, whoever that might be.
They both know about both those listed above. However, this site is just for us. They don't need to know EVERYTHING.
Sorry for the massive story . Ry XxX
We are loving the thoughts and suggestions and possibilities encountered so far so here's to many exciting encounters. Geoff

 

[Lovernotfighter]

Nope, No, not doing it, I'm not telling the story of the bisexual ex, a friend couple, nervousness, pizza and movie night not telling it again.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

It's a question that comes up in any conversation amongst swingers.
Our "journey" started years and years ago.
We met and got involved in a relationship when we were teenagers, and fell madly in love.
We didn't have much money when we moved in together, but found that sex was fun, and free!
After a few years we found that we liked to talk during sex, about how much we enjoyed certain things, about what turned us on...and eventually we talked about, and then tried, various things, fantasies etc.
Eventually, we started fantasising about other people, and this became a big part of sex for us. We found that we didn't get jealous talking about other people, and it got us seriously turned on.
So....the next step...yup, going from talking about it in bed, to talking about it in the cold light of day. We discussed it...…..a lot...…...no, you aint getting it...……..I mean A LOT, months went by, and we chatted about different scenarios, what was hot, and what wasn't... and mostly we talked about us, how we felt about it.
The biggest turn-on was Jayne with another woman, it sent her wild when we talked about it...and I was pretty keen too lol!
Then the day came, when we just said, "lets do it".
We hit the t'interwebby, and eventually found a site, and registered.
We chatted for a while, and then eventually bit the bullet and accepted an invite from a couple to meet.
We booked a hotel, travelled over, and then hit the pub where we were to meet, to say we were nervous is probably the understatement of the decade, but it was an excited kind of nervous.
We knew from camming with them that they were genuine, and we knew what they looked like.
They arrived, and after a couple of drinks, we all seemed to be getting along well. Jayne and I had developed a code to let each other know if we wanted to go further, and it was all systems go.
I asked if they wanted to go to our hotel.
What followed was an entire night of fun of all kinds, we even stopped, got dressed, went for food, came back and got stuck in again lol.
It was a great intro into swinging, and if anything made us want more.... and more!

Since then, (10 years ago) we have tried another 2 sites, and had all sorts of fun, from parties, socials, clubs, events and meets, and have done things that some wait an entire swinging... career(?) to experience. Jayne was a confirmed Bi-bunny from that first kiss she shared with the other lady on our first meet, and is never happier than when she is wrapped around a lady, getting hot and steamy, and me, well, so long as she's happy, I'm happy, we play as a couple, in 3sums, 4sums and moresums, so there's plenty of fun for everyone!

My 1st time with a guy was shit. I was too young and he was the ex of a school friend & just wanted a fuck.
All the "popular girls" were getting laid by anything with a pulse & bragging about it I thought that must mean I'm gay!
A friend of mine admitted she had a crush on me but she had a GF at the time already. I kept that in my head for a year or so whilst with my controlling/jealous xBF who was a massive homophobe . I had a night at the friend's house (both of them) and we ended up having sex. Yes, my first time was a 3some. But that was also shit. I didnt have a clue what to do and they were pretty full on. However, it was a great way to tell the ex to get lost. Fast forward to meeting G.
I was 3wks from 17 (yes I was a promiscuous teen - not proud!
1st conversation we ever had alone was me informing him that I was bi and that if that was an issue then fine, but it wouldnt work.
He loved that! We had LOTS of sex (eventually - he took some persuading once he found out my age)
We read porn together, and talked (half jokingly) about meeting someone from an ad in Escort mag (Classy!)
Thankfully that never happened. He knew that there is a part of me that he CANT do anything to satisfy, and as long as I dont hide he's fine with tales of conquests!
I met a woman. HOT ginger! I told him about her and starting dating her so to speak. We all went on night out etc.
One night we all house sat for his mum . Picture this - Snow (Deep snow) Clear starlit sky, hot tub under a pagoda in a HE_UGE garden. No neighbours. Drinks consumed, swimwear fell off (on it's own... honest... no idea how that happened), and after a fun fumble in the tub we ran naked across the snow, steam trail following us through our molten footprints, into the house to continue the fun on a fur rug in front of a coal fire! You cant make this shit up! It was incredible!
Next morning I was wary as I was convinced he now fancied her more than me and it would all be ruined. However, we chatted all day about it, like grown ups (I was 18) and we were more than fine. We continued enjoying our unconventional relationship for about another year until I got pregnant, at which point she graciously (but at the time, to me, devastatingly) bowed out in order to allow us to marry and become a family.
It was 4 yrs later that he convinced me that our vows made US,but didnt change what we have. I met a girl. We did the same 3 way stuff (but without the tub) for about another year. Still not believing we were swingers. There have been others, but I ramble already.
We have talked for several years about the idea of play with another couple, even suggesting to each other people that we know, to see how the idea sits. One of those couples has divorced (not guilty) and the other are strictly each other's, though we do all flirt like c-razy together! Hence the step into the unknown with this site. It's so hard to open up to people about such a taboo subject, we thought it was time (22yrs on) to dive in and try rather than one day wish we had whilst we still had our own hips.
Our kids have been raised to know that love is what it is, and to love someone who loves them, whoever that might be.
They both know about both those listed above. However, this site is just for us. They don't need to know EVERYTHING.
Sorry for the massive story . Ry XxX
We are loving the thoughts and suggestions and possibilities encountered so far so here's to many exciting encounters. Geoff

Wow. Interesting posts all.
Well... for us as we said here So, Where Did Swinging Begin With You?

With us, swinging began in about 2002.
I was woken by three extra bodies in my bed and all trying to rouse and Arouse me at the same time lol!
Well that was it and for about a year and a half, it developed from a bit of fun in front of the TV, to us jumping all over each other at any chance we got.
And et al. x

 

[Therapon]

I will be honest and say, as a single guy at the time I was looking for sex, nothing less, nothing more.. I tried a few other sites but it was either a total rip off or those sites with the usual "No single guys - we will find you" crap on their profiles - usually where the male is the one in control of the profile - predudiced?
Anyway, mini rant over, I joined this site and was genuinely made to feel welcome and with a lot of coaxing from the owners I gradually got more involved in the threads. Some time later a lady joined the site, the rest, as they say, is history.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I will be honest and say, as a single guy at the time I was looking for sex, nothing less, nothing more.. I tried a few other sites but it was either a total rip off or those sites with the usual "No single guys - we will find you" crap on their profiles - usually where the male is the one in control of the profile - predudiced?
Anyway, mini rant over, I joined this site and was genuinely made to feel welcome and with a lot of coaxing from the owners I gradually got more involved in the threads. Some time later a lady joined the site, the rest, as they say, is history.

 

[fincon]

For me… since I told the tale not that long ago… How Did You Become Involved In The Scene ???

 

[Pearls]

Wow. Interesting posts all.
Well... for us as we said here So, Where Did Swinging Begin With You?

With us, swinging began in about 2002.
I was woken by three extra bodies in my bed and all trying to rouse and Arouse me at the same time lol!
Well that was it and for about a year and a half, it developed from a bit of fun in front of the TV, to us jumping all over each other at any chance we got.
And et al. x

Almost 18yrs ago

 

[Deleted member 1030]

Almost 18yrs ago

But... You're only 21, surely?

 

[Pearls]

But... You're only 21, surely?

Oh yea I forgot

 

[Louise1970]

I had looked at other sites like most of you but Ss not only had what the swinging life style brings of meeting other like minded pple like yourself it had the social side too were it brings all together through chatting to members via chat rooms pm and the forums and threads.It also also you to forfil your swinging fantasies.It intrigued me from my early twenties but marriage and kids put a halt to that but being single allows me to be me xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Almost 18yrs ago

Holy shit! What happened? xx

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Holy shit! What happened? xx

She met you xx

 

[Pearls]

Holy shit! What happened? xx

Ten rounds of botox later

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Holy shit! What happened? xx

She met you xx

Ten rounds of botox later

How rude!

Soooo....

What got you sexually involved in swinging then?
Details and everything please... x

 

[Pearls]

How rude!

Soooo....

What got you sexually involved in swinging then?
Details and everything please... x

I can't remember

 

[GeoffRy]

I had looked at other sites like most of you but Ss not only had what the swinging life style brings of meeting other like minded pple like yourself it had the social side too were it brings all together through chatting to members via chat rooms pm and the forums and threads.It also also you to forfil your swinging fantasies.It intrigued me from my early twenties but marriage and kids put a halt to that but being single allows me to be me xx

And what a wonderful you you are.

 

[Louise1970]

And what a wonderful you you are.

 

[Leonidas480]

I tried a few different things after becoming single early last year. Was on Tinder for a while but not getting much joy and also it's ambiguous as some on there seem to want relationship and other just want fun. A few other dodgy sites and apps also. Lots of internet research and a steady increase in libido later, I decided to take the plunge and just went alone for my first visit to a swingers club. I haven't looked back since. Mainstream socialising bores me now.

 

[TogNMuse]

Far, far away.....

We were out having drinks, and the conversation got round to fantasies, mine was wanting to watch Muse being fucked by a VWE man, and instead of her calling me a sick perv she started asking me to go into more and more detail, and the more I told her the more I could tell she was getting turned on, so we started doing some role play based around it; which we both found incredibly horny - during this time we signed up to 'that site on the other side' and started chatting to some couples who were into to the same thing (we also really got into sharing our photos as well) then one night Muse turned around and said she felt we'd played it out and discussed it enough that she felt ready to do it for real, I had been mentally ready for a while; so we found some suitable single men and built up a rapport over a couple of weeks with a couple of them (arranged to and did meet both, not at the same time!) And it just happened, and what amazed us both was how 'right' it felt for both of us, and just how close and in even more in love we felt with each other afterwards - and the sex we had together later was mind-blowing!

Originally I had no intention or desire to have sex with anyone else, but we started going to clubs, and met some fantastic couples and single ladies, and Muse found she got just as turned on as me from watching me with another women and here we are now, pretty much game for anything But we still both enjoy our original Stag & Vixen scenarios the most. Oh and Muse is now enjoying exploring her bi-side which is something neither of us ever imagined would happen.

Tog