Straight To The Point

[Deleted member 3175]

Do you get straight to the point when you see someone you like or do you just hang back, see how it goes and then take it from there?

 

[Deleted member 3657]

I hang back now. Made to feel like a twat too many times.

 

[Charlie01]

Do you get straight to the point when you see someone you like or do you just hang back, see how it goes and then take it from there?

I think I could be both...it depends how I read the person(s) and also depends on how I’m feeling, environment, etc

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I hang back now. Made to feel like a twat too many times.

Did you do it publically or through message? S x

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I think I could be both...it depends how I read the person(s) and also depends on how I’m feeling, environment, etc

How do you read the person where do you get that from is it taking to them on here? S x

 

[Deleted member 6485]

I tend to hang back a little...see how much the person in question engages with me. I dont like to be made to feel silly xx

 

[Deleted member 9631]

I like to get into it. If I like someone I like to let them know.xx

 

[Deleted member 3657]

Did you do it publically or through message? S x

I expressed some inclination publicly and felt I received some back. Then when I approached privately I was either ignored or told no thanks, not my/our type.

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I tend to hang back a little...see how much the person in question engages with me. I dont like to be made to feel silly xx

Know how ya feel! Do you prefer to talk on DM/mail? Sorry just being nosey! S xxxxxx

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I like to get into it. If I like someone I like to let them know.xx

Ohh I say! How do you let em know? S x

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I expressed some inclination publicly and felt I received some back. Then when I approached privately I was either ignored or told no thanks, not my/our type.

Has it put you off? S x

 

[Lovernotfighter]

I tend to hang a bit, I worry about making a fit of myself and struggle at times with self confidence.

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I tend to hang a bit, I worry about making a fit of myself and struggle at times with self confidence.

I'm the same, plus to be honest I wouldnt know how to go about it! S x

 

[MP386]

Do you get straight to the point when you see someone you like or do you just hang back, see how it goes and then take it from there?

My approach has always been to wait for couples to make contact that way I feel they are both wanting to... maybe the wrong way of doing things many people have said I should be more proactive? If that’s the right word ... not always easy as I don’t like to seem pushy ...
single ladies again sometime difficult to read whether they would want to meet or even interact with you ... I would normally ask if I could follow them first then see if they show any interest... I have messaged some who don’t even reply so that makes things easier in that they obviously don’t want to know ...
Rather than anyone beat around the bush I would rather a polite jog on ... than being strung along ....

 

[Deleted member 3657]

Has it put you off? S x

It's done a lot of damage. So much so that I've made zero effort since for the reason I first mentioned.

 

[Lovernotfighter]

I tend to hang a bit, I worry about making a fit of myself and struggle at times with self confidence.

I tend to hang a bit, I worry about making a tit of myself and struggle at times with self confidence.

Little edit fit replaced with tit.

 

[Charlie01]

How do you read the person where do you get that from is it taking to them on here? S x

Talking on here to s part of it. I still believe it is exceptionally difficult to know someone in conversation unless face to face. Expression, body language, tone of voice, smell...all are taken in through all the senses

 

[Deleted member 3175]

It's done a lot of damage. So much so that I've made zero effort since for the reason I first mentioned.

But the thing is you're not gonna be everyones type, but ignoring is rude tho.
Just got to keep trying, you never know. S x

 

[stumpysteve]

I tend to be cautious and see how the person i am interacting reacts to conversations ,there is nothing worse than wading in with both feet and finding out the attraction is only one sided, you can feel abit of an idiot and it makes talking to them infuture abit awkward xx

 

[Deleted member 3175]

My approach has always been to wait for couples to make contact that way I feel they are both wanting to... maybe the wrong way of doing things many people have said I should be more proactive? If that’s the right word ... not always easy as I don’t like to seem pushy ...
single ladies again sometime difficult to read whether they would want to meet or even interact with you ... I would normally ask if I could follow them first then see if they show any interest... I have messaged some who don’t even reply so that makes things easier in that they obviously don’t want to know ...
Rather than anyone beat around the bush I would rather a polite jog on ... than being strung along ....

When we first came on here I had no idea what to say who to contact, and getting the nice welcoming messages helped. I suppose its difficult being a single man on here?
I agree a simple no thanks or jog on would be better, but then again we arent always everyones cup of tea. But i do like your tea! :mwah: S x

 

[Deleted member 3175]

Talking on here to s part of it. I still believe it is exceptionally difficult to know someone in conversation unless face to face. Expression, body language, tone of voice, smell...all are taken in through all the senses

Agreed! I find it so hard to type what I want to say and sometimes this can be taken the wrong way depending on how the person reads it. Body language does play a big part could not agree more! x

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I tend to be cautious and see how the person i am interacting reacts to conversations ,there is nothing worse than wading in with both feet and finding out the attraction is only one sided, you can feel abit of an idiot and it makes talking to them infuture abit awkward xx

What sort of impression do you get that makes you think that person is interested?
Does this come over on here? S xxxx

 

[Deleted member 3657]

But the thing is you're not gonna be everyones type, but ignoring is rude tho.
Just got to keep trying, you never know. S x

You don't have to tell me.

 

[MP386]

When we first came on here I had no idea what to say who to contact, and getting the nice welcoming messages helped. I suppose its difficult being a single man on here?
I agree a simple no thanks or jog on would be better, but then again we arent always everyones cup of tea. But i do like your tea! :mwah: S x

I like a little sugar with tea ......
“waits for cringe emoji’s”
I think it’s difficult for everyone if your not hardened into this lifestyle, it can be brutal and become sole distroying but it has its good moments too ...

 

[Deleted member 3175]

I like to get into it. If I like someone I like to let them know.xx

How you do you let them know are you straight to the point or do you lead up to it? Taking notes here! S xxxxx