Firstly I'd like to welcome you both to the site
Hope you enjoy and find it refreshing. Secondly, I must say what an excellent article and introductory thread this is!
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AlphaandBlue said:
We would like to also acknowledge the great PV scheme and how it put our mind at ease knowing such great care you guys take to ensure new people are sincere.
It definitely helps make sure you're speaking with people who they say they are, rather than Sally from down the road - who is in fact Bob..
AlphaandBlue said:
We thought we would use our first forum post to gain a little point in the right direction, it seems every site we tried before this one was either far too lax in security or simply a money making scheme. How does everyone weed out the good from the bad or are there simply a very limited amount of options ? We've tried numerous 'swipe apps' and with no idea if the person your swiping on is real your allowing - although minimal- them some access into a deeply private and personal area of not only your own life but your partners too.
This is why the site is like it is.. not a money spinner and using members as cash cows. As far as security is concerned, it's the site's number one priority. 100% every time without fail. Whether a single gent, lady or couple - it doesn't matter. Everyone is treated equally and with safety being paramount.
Weeding the good from the bad is tricky. A lot of it is done on here before members become fully active. Bans happen quietly and discreetly (sometimes
) and problem members are dealt with swiftly.
PV also reduces the Catfishing dilemma too, which again further reduces the bad, allowing more good.
However, it's not all a silver bullet and the rest is down to you. Use your gut instinct and if someone or something is too good to be true? It usually is.
Anything fishy, such as a non-PV'd member asking for personal details, then be wary and/or report anything unusual.
Follow your own intuition.
It helps though that everyone here is welcoming, friendly and happy to engage.
AlphaandBlue said:
Has anyone had the unfortunate situation arise when you accidentally end up finding someone you already knew on one of these sites or apps whom you would rather knew nothing about the decisions in life you have made regarding your sexuality? If so what did you do if you don't mind us asking?
Yes we did.. One was our ex-financial advisor. We felt that he was around for the same reasons as us so therefore it wasn't a problem. Until he pushed and pushed asking for a threesome and not taking no for an answer.
AlphaandBlue said:
Finally more on the practical side of the swinging we really have no idea where to begin? Should we be chatting socially on the sites and social media to bed ourselves in so to speak or is a lets just go for it at a club gung ho style the best way to begin. Of course we completely expect the 'you need to do whats right for you' response to this and ultimately that is indeed the way we will eventually go, but what about you guys was it an easy choice to invite others into your homes and beds ? Was everyone happy with the initial encounters or was there mistakes that we should try to avoid ?
We are of course completely aware these questions are of a personal and intrusive nature and expect no response except from those happy to share. Thanks for taking the time to read if you have got this far a little long winded for a first thread.
Also thanks again for the great welcome guys and for creating such an amazing community.
Alpha and Blue xx
Yeah this is always a tricky one as it's wholly dependant on you. Have you ever been to a club as of yet?
We're a couple who enjoy home meets over clubs or hotels. We wine and dine and go from there. Anyone who comes here, is really made to feel welcome/at home and waited on hand & foot. The rest usually happens naturally.
If there's anything I can advise on avoiding for mistakes, it would be use caution with alcohol and drugs. A few drinks is of course perfectly normal and expected to a degree by anyone, but being off your face totally is a no-go.
Sadly people do still go ahead with others' when they're too drunk to walk, which is a bit of a no-no in the whole lifestyle. It's almost an unwritten rule.
Finally, the best advice I can offer you will be; communicate about everything. Be open, do not keep secrets. Don't talk to another gent/lady/couple without the other one of you knowing by keeping it all secret.
Be open, honest, discuss boundaries. Talk about experiences and things you liked and enjoyed, which you'd like to do again - or things you didn't and don't ever wish to repeat.
Whatever you do, just make sure you communicate as much as you can with each other.
Other than that, enjoy everything it brings - which can be exhilarating, exciting, passionate and fun. But as with everything, you may encounter a few bumps along the way too.
Hopefully we can all get to meet you both at some point in the future at one of the organised events.
Good luck both and happy swinging.
x