Taking The Initiative..

TherLegs · 28 March 2019

I just do what I'm told :innocent:

GeoffRy · 28 March 2019

WolfieGray said:
Going with the flow, I think that's a great way to put it, I agree.

Seeing myself as a beginner, I would want the couple to take the initiative. As it is their dynamic and they have welcomed someone into that.

I would say it's important to get a feel for what they desire, and then to be a part of making that desire a reality. Maybe once I'm not a beginner anymore, it would then be possible to take the initiative myself, but only if the people involved want me to do that.

Sometimes I like to be obedient/directed to what someone wants, but that doesn't necessarily mean subservient all the time to people, because it can include being told to be dominant & take control aswell.

Maybe a cute way to describe it is like being a play toy, could take time to learn how to use a new toy, & if I malfunction just press the reset button.

Duly noted!
See you soon (should we send instruction list to your Inbox?) XxRy&G

Deleted member 11094 · 28 March 2019

Leonidas480 said:
If I'm with a couple I don't know and they're experienced, I let them take the lead initially. But after I know them a bit I'm more inclined to suggest things. In a situation with singles or small groups I'm usually happy to lead to some degree. It all comes as confidence grows but being aware of a situation's dynamics is crucial and good communication is important to achieve this.

Very well said
X

Deleted member 11094 · 28 March 2019

GeoffRy said:
Duly noted!
See you soon (should we send instruction list to your Inbox?) XxRy&G

Not yet you cheekies, you know this. Another dance & hang out when you're back from holiday, I am drowning in work right now. But also I think instructions are helpful in any situation .. But do people read them? And would I manage to break something like usual . Xx

GeoffRy · 28 March 2019

WolfieGray said:
Not yet you cheekies, you know this. Another dance & hang out when you're back from holiday, I am drowning in work right now. But also I think instructions are helpful in any situation .. But do people read them? And would I manage to break something like usual . Xx

Def want a catch up and dance when we return.
Maybe I could write you a full instruction manual for you to peruse and decide when the time is right for you. Either that or just get all strict and domineering and order you and just force you (consenting non-consent like). We can act out our own little Kink/ S+S scene. Quite liking the idea of making you dominate Ry with a strap on whilst I watch and direct. HA
Yeah as if I could be that domineering, I am just a big softy. XxX

Deleted member 11094 · 29 March 2019

GeoffRy said:
Def want a catch up and dance when we return.
Maybe I could write you a full instruction manual for you to peruse and decide when the time is right for you. Either that or just get all strict and domineering and order you and just force you (consenting non-consent like). We can act out our own little Kink/ S+S scene. Quite liking the idea of making you dominate Ry with a strap on whilst I watch and direct. HA
Yeah as if I could be that domineering, I am just a big softy. XxX

yeah you are a softy at heart.
No need for instructions, like I said I'm doing things on my terms & timeline. I am sure there are lots of others around if you both are very ready to dive in with someone.
Of course, having a boogie with you both was fun and is nice. And that's alright with me. Hope you both have a fabulous time in Thailand
xx

Lips_Pearls · 2 February 2020

Lips_Pearls said:
Thinking of this thread Men Vs Women In Swinging... as a couple, who really takes the initiative in your partnership/marriage?
As a single person involved with another couple, do you take the lead/initiative or do you look to the husband/wife for the lead so you then follow?
We all have a balance to find really don't we.
Is it something you really do, have someone who takes the lead or is that not within your essence per se?
As ever.. what say ye?
Be honest - we're all friends here. x

I think it’s fair to say HRH is the spotter and I’m the marksman ??

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