Quite simply, in my humble opinion, the key spanking, flogging or any other potential pain inducing activity is communication
If people communicate with each other then there should never be a problem.
We all (or at least most of us I think) like to push boundaries but if I was being subjected to any kind of punishment and the pain began to feel more unpleasant than pleasurable then I would simply say enough and expect that to bring an end to it.
And the same applies if I was the one dealing out the pleasure/pain
Everyone’s pain threshold is different and everyone reacts differently to different levels of pain.
So each person will only find out where there “sweet spot” is through experimenting.
That’s why no definitive answer can be given to the question of how hard to slap/spank/flog can be given as we’re all different. So, my advice (for what it’s worth) is start off reasonably gently and slowly build up until it feels right. Common sense really although I can understand newcomers to the “sport” might get a bit carried away.
I’ve not mentioned trust as to me that’s something that I would expect people to have enough common sense to not have to be told that trust is, of course, an absolute prerequisite.
So, play nicely children or daddy will have to take you over his knee and give you a good spanking :collar:
Antogs xx