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UnknownPleasures

It's had it's up and downs in more ways than one, but overall the last few years have been exciting, exhilarating and liberating. Not that I was ever a shy retiring wall flower but my confidence has soared to new heights since we began this wonderful journey and long may it continue.
 
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Scrunchy&Muffet

It's better than we could ever have imagined. It's done wonders for our already great sex life and given both more confident to be open about what we like/don't like etc. Also have made some truly wonderful friendships along the way. Ones that we hope will last a very long time. Wouldn't change a thing xxxx
 
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is it how you expected?

Oh god, no. No. Not at all!

We have changed - as people and in our expectations. Blimey, even our boundaries, rules and desires have changed!
We were quite specific in the things we were fantasising about, when we started out. We even spoke about some of the things that would make us go "ewwww". We have since tried quite a few of those things (loving some of them ;)) and a few of the old fantasies have fallen by the wayside. We've learned things - about ourselves, about other people and about the world in general - that we would never have learned in any other walk of life. Who knows? Maybe we'll evolve further.

But I'll tell you something...

It'll be bloody fun finding out. It always has been ;)
 
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Scrunchy&Muffet

@meandlis yeah I can empathise with that. There are things that initially we thought no way would that float our boat. But have since tried it and loved it. We now have quite a laid back approach. We still have rules that we play by but we have definitely changed and so had our relationship.....for the better. We are stronger than ever xxxxx
 
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UnknownPleasures

When I think back to our rules when we first started out;
Social first
Never play at home
No single guys
Condoms for oral sex
Same room only
No hotel meets
Only meet as a couple

What can I say? Rules are there to be bent, broken and thrown out of the window.
Aren't they...? X
 

Therapon

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I'm fairly new to swinging and untill you asked I'd never really thought about it. I had been on other sites and although I did meet a couple from one the overall impression was hostile, one of the disadvantages of being a single male on most swinging sites and so I had no real expectation.
The biggest change has been since joining here and I think Admin summed it up the other day when he said "He didn't make the moderators job his own, it made him". What I think I'm trying to say is, I probably have changed but those changes have been seen by others, not myself so I can't really answer the question- hope that makes sense.
 
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meet_the_fockers

I'm fairly new to swinging and untill you asked I'd never really thought about it. I had been on other sites and although I did meet a couple from one the overall impression was hostile, one of the disadvantages of being a single male on most swinging sites and so I had no real expectation.
The biggest change has been since joining here and I think Admin summed it up the other day when he said "He didn't make the moderators job his own, it made him". What I think I'm trying to say is, I probably have changed but those changes have been seen by others, not myself so I can't really answer the question- hope that makes sense.
I shall get back to this tomorrow ;) yey arent you thrilled :D x
 
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So come on give us your thoughts is it how you expected?
No !!!, Not even close !! the excitement and the thrill of meeting a new partner/s for fun, still has us with major butterflies in our tummies, but in real terms, they were often wasted,
We have only met a very small amount of people that really made the earth move for us, and matched our commitment to the lifestyle, the real fun starts long after first meets, when the friendship develops properly, so newness and fumbling newness, has long past disappeared, however, often due to our hopeful great expectations, friends are sadly not always properly formed !!
This is one of our main reasons that we are concentrating on our established friends network, rather than creating new meets at this present time !!! so we can develop our mutual fun with our large established friends base !! and seriously have some great fun, which is what this lifestyle is meant to be !! xx
Regards, @The-A-Team
 
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meet_the_fockers

No !!!, Not even close !! the excitement and the thrill of meeting a new partner/s for fun, still has us with major butterflies in our tummies, but in real terms, they were often wasted,
We have only met a very small amount of people that really made the earth move for us, and matched our commitment to the lifestyle, the real fun starts long after first meets, when the friendship develops properly, so newness and fumbling newness, has long past disappeared, however, often due to our hopeful great expectations, friends are sadly not always properly formed !!
This is one of our main reasons that we are concentrating on our established friends network, rather than creating new meets at this present time !!! so we can develop our mutual fun with our large established friends base !! and seriously have some great fun, which is what this lifestyle is meant to be !! xx
Regards, @The-A-Team
Great post @The-A-Team and very true.
Regards lol You sound like my bank manager..
You are overdrawn miss focker sort it out.
Regards... Mr pay me now! Lol x
 
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