No need...
It's very simple, and I have to repeat myself. We, my wife and I, the staff and YOU - members, give this everything we all have. We interact, we post, we add media, we chat, we arrange meets (some do some don't admittedly) , we add content..... Some contribute financially too, some don't.. but we ALL work the site. All of us. From the top down.
When people come in and detract others in a sneaky way to get chatting on other sites - like the not so fabulous site, or to use kick (sic intentional) or to use other means, when we have everything here at a cost of nothing to anyone - then we're being well and truly kicked in the balls. (pun intended)
These people are trying to undo everything you and I and everyone else who contributes to make this site what she is.. and I am struggling to accept it for much longer.
We all know we have to exchange details, of course we do... we do ourselves personally for 'meets' (never liked that word) which is expected.... but to drag people away to use other sites, other apps, other means to chat, to add content etc etc means less activity here, which means less member interaction which equates to other members then leaving.
Listen up people = other members leave our site because of YOUR actions.
So it has to stop. We are not totalitarian. We are not dictatorship state run. We're liberal. We're very democratic - just look at what I/we have acted upon because you, our members, have voiced opinions on... PV a perfect example, you asked for it we delivered - find me another site that will do that....
Hell, I've lost track at how many members have my phone number!! We are reachable, we are human, we are there when people need us. Pretty much 24/7... we are there for whatever, whenever..
But when people cross this line, it's no different to coming into my home, finding my wallet or something of personal value, taking it and walking out.
It is simply unacceptable and quite frankly I have had enough of it.
If you want to use other means, great, go for it, but ask or suggest any more of OUR members to do so and you will soon find yourself outside of this site.
We will not tolerate it for much longer.