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First club visit? Are you unsure? What to expect.

  • Thread starter meet_the_fockers
  • Start date 19 November 2015
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19 November 2015
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meet_the_fockers

Ive been messaged on a couple of occasions, asking for advice from people, hoping to visit a club for the first time. So i thought id throw a few words together.. I am by no means an expert. Although.. we have been to a fair few clubs/socials. These have been Manchester/Wirral N.West based clubs. Clubs in other parts of the country maybe slightly different?

I will try to give some of the answers to some of the questions ive been asked...Everyone is different everyone has different expectations.. but here are some of mine.
Take a deep breathe before you go in.. This is sometimes the hardest part.
If you tell the owners/ management its your first time, they will more than likely give you the option of a guided tour, explaining the rules as you stroll around.
Some clubs are immediate dress down, some ask that you dress down by say 22.00 23.00?
Some only ask that you dress down, when you leave the lounge area..
Its not polite to wander around amongst play rooms in your wellies and parker. :D when others are scantily clad.
Right drinks..
some have liquor licenses but... the drinks are usually very cheap. In some venues a bar tab is set in place and you pay your bill before leaving.
Some dont have a liquor license... they all sell soft drinks and coffee.
You are usually permitted to take your own alcohol, to unlicensed venues.
It will be kept behind the bar for you.. your locker key usually has a number on which will correspond, with the drinks you placed behind the bar complicated? its not.
Watch your alchol intake, tipsy is fun, paralletic is not.. and maybe very annoying for other visitors.. plus may/will greatly cloud your judgement re- play and previously discussed bounderies..
Etiquette.
.. Much like your usual night out.. smile.
If someone makes a bee-line for you drop it into the conversation, what it is your looking for.
They may only be looking to chat?
You will know the difference.
Mingle.. remember the other club goers are just like YOU. They are like minded.
You dont have to run round naked all night waving your hands in the air.. ;D
you may prefer to sit and chat in the lounge area and solialise all night..
Its up to YOU.
Finally only do what you are comfortable doing..DISCUS before your visit your bounderies between you and stick to them, if you have a change of heart whilst there, again mull it over between yourselves... I cant stress this enough.
A polite no thankyou is all it takes.. if the advice isnt heeded speak to the owner/manager.
theres a misconception re clubs being full of writhing bodies..
In some of the play rooms? Maybe so?... in the lounge/bar area not so.
Above all enjoy.
treat it like a fun night out..
towels are provided for dress down/jacuzi/pool use.
Gents can take their own shorts.
Ladies dress down..
basques tiny skirts.. lacey see through dresses, underwear. Depends what you feel comfortable in.
Lockers are provided in the changing areas, usually for a deposit. Think locker ..wristband ..swimming..

No photography!!
☆☆☆☆☆ important☆☆☆☆☆
Please check the clubs website, before heading out..
whats on, on the night before you visit.
prices
licensed or unlicensed.
ID TAKE SOME FORM OF ID..
We have had some of the best crazy social nights ever in clubs.. danced laughed, chilled in a jacuzzi or swimming pool with a drink. Even played pool all night.
Relax enjoy.
Go with no expectations..
Hope this helps elivate some of your fears, and answers a few, of the questions ive been asked.
Happy Clubbing♡♡♡ :D
 
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20 November 2015
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excellent info, and thanks for taking the time to write this :D
 
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20 November 2015
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zebo said:
excellent info, and thanks for taking the time to write this :D
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Nae worries thanks for taking the time to read it x
 
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20 November 2015
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Thanks for adding that info @meet_the_fockers it's really useful info.
 
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20 November 2015
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Admin

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Moved to public hints n tips for swingers.
An excellent piece of insight that shouldn't get lost in general chats. As you know.

Thank you for adding this for everyone to be able to read and gain some insightful thoughts into their first (perhaps) visit to a club.
You have once again provided information so useful to everyone here. x (y)
 
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Admin said:
Moved to public hints n tips for swingers.
An excellent piece of insight that shouldn't get lost in general chats. As you know.

Thank you for adding this for everyone to be able to read and gain some insightful thoughts into their first (perhaps) visit to a club.
You have once again provided information so useful to everyone here. x (y)
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Thankyou.. your always moving my things around :rofl:
 
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20 November 2015
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Brilliant advice xx
 
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20 November 2015
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TGBS2015

This is really helpful. Thank you again for your help x
 
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20 November 2015
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TGBS2015 said:
This is really helpful. Thank you again for your help x
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Your welcome sweetie x
 
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26 November 2015
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Glad I read this, I'll come back to it when I finally pluck up the courage to visit a club for the first time :whistle:
 
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26 November 2015
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LeeWidnes said:
Glad I read this, I'll come back to it when I finally pluck up the courage to visit a club for the first time :whistle:
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LOL! :D :rofl: :bouncy::bouncy:
 
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LeeWidnes said:
Glad I read this, I'll come back to it when I finally pluck up the courage to visit a club for the first time :whistle:
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Knock it off you, not everyones a trollop you know!!
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
Knock it off you, not everyones a trollop you know!!
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Though I must admit, most of the people I know are ;) lol
 
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26 November 2015
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LeeWidnes said:
Though I must admit, most of the people I know are ;) lol
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You know your own tricks best ;) :D unsure if we will be there ... but will try our bestest. If were not enjoy x
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
You know your own tricks best ;) :D unsure if we will be there ... but will try our bestest. If were not enjoy x
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Saturday i mean .
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
Saturday i mean .
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I thought that might be what you meant. I'll do my best to have a good time but being the quiet retiring type that I am I might be too shy to enjoy myself that much :D
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
Ive been messaged on a couple of occasions, asking for advice from people, hoping to visit a club for the first time. So i thought id throw a few words together.. I am by no means an expert. Although.. we have been to a fair few clubs/socials. These have been Manchester/Wirral N.West based clubs. Clubs in other parts of the country maybe slightly different?

I will try to give some of the answers to some of the questions ive been asked...Everyone is different everyone has different expectations.. but here are some of mine.
Take a deep breathe before you go in.. This is sometimes the hardest part.
If you tell the owners/ management its your first time, they will more than likely give you the option of a guided tour, explaining the rules as you stroll around.
Some clubs are immediate dress down, some ask that you dress down by say 22.00 23.00?
Some only ask that you dress down, when you leave the lounge area..
Its not polite to wander around amongst play rooms in your wellies and parker. :D when others are scantily clad.
Right drinks..
some have liquor licenses but... the drinks are usually very cheap.
Some dont... they all sell soft drinks and coffee.
You are usually permitted to take your own alchol, to unlicensed venues. It will be kept behind the bar for you.. your locker key usually has a number on which will correspond, with the drinks you placed behind the bar complicated? its not.
Etiquette
.. much like your usual night out.. smile. If someone makes a bee-line for you drop it into the conversation, what it is your looking for.
They may only be looking to chat?
You will know the difference.
Mingle.. remember the other club goers are just like YOU. They are like minded.
You dont have to run round naked all night waving your hands in the air.. ;D
you may prefer to sit and chat in the lounge area and solialise all night..
Its up to YOU.
Finally only do what you are comfortable doing.. a polite no thankyou is all it takes.. if the advice isnt heeded speak to the owner/manager.
theres a misconception re clubs being full of writhing bodies.. in the rooms maybe so?.. in the lounge/bar area not so.
Above all enjoy.
treat it like a fun night out..
towels are provided for dress down alternatively gents can take their own shorts.
Ladies dress down..
basques tiny skirts.. lacey see through dresses, underwear. Depends what you feel comfortable in.
Lockers are provided usually for a deposit. Think locker ..wristband ..swimming..

No photography!!
☆☆☆☆☆ important☆☆☆☆☆
Please check the clubs website, before heading out..
whats on, on the night before you visit.
prices
licensed or unlicensed.
ID TAKE SOME FORM OF ID..
We have had some of the best crazy social nights ever in clubs.. danced laughed, chilled in a jacuzzi or swimming pool with a drink. Even played pool all night.
Relax enjoy. Go with no expectations..
Hope this helps elivate some of your fears, and answers a few of the questions ive been asked. Happy Clubbing♡♡♡ :D
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meet_the_fockers said:
You dont have to run round naked all night waving your hands in the air..
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Hmmmm sounds fun which club was this lol xxxx that would be a definite conversation starter lol !!!
 
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I think getting used taking the next step. Talking to people is easy. Being brave enough to ask to join them
 
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So nice to see you back @sallyian40 :) x
 
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On my to do list :) visit a club we shall see :)
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
Ive been messaged on a couple of occasions, asking for advice from people, hoping to visit a club for the first time. So i thought id throw a few words together.. I am by no means an expert. Although.. we have been to a fair few clubs/socials. These have been Manchester/Wirral N.West based clubs. Clubs in other parts of the country maybe slightly different?

I will try to give some of the answers to some of the questions ive been asked...Everyone is different everyone has different expectations.. but here are some of mine.
Take a deep breathe before you go in.. This is sometimes the hardest part.
If you tell the owners/ management its your first time, they will more than likely give you the option of a guided tour, explaining the rules as you stroll around.
Some clubs are immediate dress down, some ask that you dress down by say 22.00 23.00?
Some only ask that you dress down, when you leave the lounge area..
Its not polite to wander around amongst play rooms in your wellies and parker. :D when others are scantily clad.
Right drinks..
some have liquor licenses but... the drinks are usually very cheap.
Some dont... they all sell soft drinks and coffee.
You are usually permitted to take your own alchol, to unlicensed venues. It will be kept behind the bar for you.. your locker key usually has a number on which will correspond, with the drinks you placed behind the bar complicated? its not.
Etiquette
.. much like your usual night out.. smile. If someone makes a bee-line for you drop it into the conversation, what it is your looking for.
They may only be looking to chat?
You will know the difference.
Mingle.. remember the other club goers are just like YOU. They are like minded.
You dont have to run round naked all night waving your hands in the air.. ;D
you may prefer to sit and chat in the lounge area and solialise all night..
Its up to YOU.
Finally only do what you are comfortable doing.. a polite no thankyou is all it takes.. if the advice isnt heeded speak to the owner/manager.
theres a misconception re clubs being full of writhing bodies.. in the rooms maybe so?.. in the lounge/bar area not so.
Above all enjoy.
treat it like a fun night out..
towels are provided for dress down alternatively gents can take their own shorts.
Ladies dress down..
basques tiny skirts.. lacey see through dresses, underwear. Depends what you feel comfortable in.
Lockers are provided usually for a deposit. Think locker ..wristband ..swimming..

No photography!!
☆☆☆☆☆ important☆☆☆☆☆
Please check the clubs website, before heading out..
whats on, on the night before you visit.
prices
licensed or unlicensed.
ID TAKE SOME FORM OF ID..
We have had some of the best crazy social nights ever in clubs.. danced laughed, chilled in a jacuzzi or swimming pool with a drink. Even played pool all night.
Relax enjoy. Go with no expectations..
Hope this helps elivate some of your fears, and answers a few of the questions ive been asked. Happy Clubbing♡♡♡ :D
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Sensible advice from a straight talking person
 
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Sensible advice from a straight talking person
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thankyou @chopper sensible? Well thats a 1st. :D x
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
thankyou @chopper sensible? Well thats a 1st. :D x
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And probably the last time you'll hear it said as well :whistle: x
 
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And probably the last time you'll hear it said as well :whistle: x
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:rofl: :rolleyes: Everyonesssss a comic :p
 
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meet_the_fockers said:
:rofl: :rolleyes: Everyonesssss a comic :p
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That's one of the nicest things you've called me ;) :D
 
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