Jealousy

[Pearls]

Ok are you a jealous person? Does this affect you're swinging lifestyle? It could be couples of each others partner, could be singles jealous of others having fun with someone that they have played with or have an eye for them..
Jealousy comes in all shape and form, I think as a couple there has to be some jealousy, we have a very passionate relationship and have always had jealousy, not issues though but all fun and thats how we work.
There must be some very interesting stories to tell here, so come on be honest

 

[Leather]

I used to get jealous in my younger day but I think when you get older you wise up, saying that a little jealousy never hurt anyone and its healthy to a degree, In this lifestyle as long as all parties keep to the game rules then it should be all harmless fun.
I have come across many couples though who have started swinging and then broken up over this and trust, Its not for everyone at the end of the day xx

 

[Pearls]

Yes agree there hun and we have seen this, some people are just not for swinging xx

 

[meet_the_fockers]

Weird really, if someone pays, Mr F
Attention in the 'swinging world' doesn't phase me, I actually enjoy it
In the real world that's a different matter. Especially if I'm with him. Disrespectful.
Nothing as queer as folk! as they say!

 

[Pearls]

Know what you mean and its usually me telling @Admin get in there you've pulled haha but if it were real life and we were out and a girl approached him...Well what can I say, broken knees

 

[meet_the_fockers]

I used to get jealous in my younger day but I think when you get older you wise up, saying that a little jealousy never hurt anyone and its healthy to a degree, In this lifestyle as long as all parties keep to the game rules then it should be all harmless fun.
I have come across many couples though who have started swinging and then broken up over this and trust, Its not for everyone at the end of the day xx

This is so true, why is it some couples, think swinging will help, an already floundering relationship. A bit like our relationship is crap. I know how to fix it we will have a baby
I think to 'swing' have sex outside of your relationship, it would have to be pretty god damn strong, and God damn bloody brilliant in the first place...

 

[Pearls]

Too true xx

 

[Admin]

Yes indeed quite true.. I'm the same as I am actually fiercely protective over @Pearls and those who know us in RL know this. I mean, I am really fiercely protective, and of course jealous too. But jealous not the point where I'm a full blown green eyed monster.
I find it flattering when people comment on how sexy/pretty she is...

But overstep the mark especially without asking ME - and look out.
That's one thing that pisses me off these days, it used to be etiquette to always ask the gent if okay to speak to the lady.. Not lately it's not.
And I do NOT like people randomly in chat asking @Pearls if she's up for some fun etc etc without even approaching me.
Most men I think you'll find are the same, I'm old fashioned in this sense and believe in the older etiquette = and in my opinion, it's only right to get approval to speak to the ladies in the partnerships.

Just my opinion really, that's how it used to be.... x

 

[Leather]

This is so true, why is it some couples, think swinging will help, an already floundering relationship. A bit like our relationship is crap. I know how to fix it we will have a baby
I think to 'swing' have sex outside of your relationship, it would have to be pretty god damn strong, and God damn bloody brilliant in the first place...

Yes indeed and I have had friends that have said to me, oh Im going to give it a go with hubby and then bang its all over, you have to be in a strong relationship before even thinking about it xx

 

[Admin]

THE biggest mistake in a marriage or relationship is to try swinging - as a means to repair a failing marriage that is sexless.
Because it's the final nail in the coffin. x

 

[Leather]

True @Admin and that is how it used to be but newbies and generation just dont get it these days xx

 

[Charlia]

*pokes head in* has the growling about us young generation and newbies stopped? Lol

I'm not really a swinger but my two are, so I feel I can actually comment on the thread. I don't tend to jealousy. If my two want to play, as long as they are happy, I'm happy.

I do, occasionally, feel insecure with people. If I feel like the other person is pushing for something, or is trying to divert all attention to them, and make themselves needed, then I get insecure and upset. X

 

[The-A-Team]

Hmmmm Jealousy, Initially, We were both jealous of each others fun and I think the fear that we may be replaced by a maybe better lover or may not appreciate each other fully afterwards, but once the trust was reinforced and we accepted it was fun sex, and not loving sex, and that the reality is, no one makes love to you better than the person you really love fully, we really relaxed into enjoying ourselves with New partners, but it took a few months of self doubts for both of us, before getting to where we are at now !!

 

[Admin]

Well to further add to your thread gorgeous @Pearls as you know, we see jealousy every single day on here and sometimes it's definitely more prominent than others..
Hard battle to fight that is, the one with the green eyed monster.
In this lifestyle/scene - honesty is the best policy xx

 

[Deleted member 3411]

As I have stated before Linda and I are a new couple but not new to swinging. We are taking that time to get to know each other properly and above all else discussing what we will and will not do. Already we have a strong bond and an understanding of each other. I can't guarantee there will be no jealousy, but far from it at the moment we are both excited at the idea of watching both of us with others. Last night we stopped off for a meal in a restaurant on our way to the nightclub and an extremely gorgeous woman half my age was looking and smiling, instead of any jealousy Linda was very pleased to notice that I had an admirer. She saw it as an affirmation that she has good taste in men. We won't be jealous of what each other are doing because what we have together is something no one else can match. Sex is fun and We're up for fun. Jealousy is born out of the fear that what is happening is going to destroy instead we believe it will enhance

 

[Scrunchy&Muffet]

I think that in a loving relationship it woukd be impossible to not have some pangs of jelousy watching the person you adore with someone else. But when you put into perspective....yes he may be with someone else....but so are you. Youre in the same room. At the end of it all he/she leaves with you.
It always makes me appreciate just what we have. And it makes us feel stronger as a couple. After a meet we usually cant keep our hands off each other. For us a little bit of jelousy works but if there are trust issues....swinging will only end in tears. Xxx

 

[Admin]

if there are trust issues....swinging will only end in tears. Xxx

Totally agree x

 

[Pearls]

I think that in a loving relationship it woukd be impossible to not have some pangs of jelousy watching the person you adore with someone else. But when you put into perspective....yes he may be with someone else....but so are you. Youre in the same room. At the end of it all he/she leaves with you.
It always makes me appreciate just what we have. And it makes us feel stronger as a couple. After a meet we usually cant keep our hands off each other. For us a little bit of jelousy works but if there are trust issues....swinging will only end in tears. Xxx

Perfect hun, couldn't have said it better, the afterwoods is the best bit with your partner, jealousy can be a good thing, its only when people step over the boundries which we have see so many times and boom relationship over, I think the worst is greed for some, then the lies a secrets start, sad when this happens when swinging is all about fun

 

[Bump-n-Grind]

Got to agree with @Scrunchy&Muffet & @Pearls . A small amount of jealousy is natural & goes hand in hand with some of the excitement, trust is key & being able to differentiate your swinging sex life & your relationship sex.

 

[Scrunchy&Muffet]

Got to agree with @Scrunchy&Muffet. A small amount of jealousy is natural & goes hand in hand with some of the excitement, trust is key & being able to differentiate your swinging sex life & your relationship sex.

Exactly....nothing beats the sex that you have with your partner within your relationship. Swinging is and should be fun but it doesnt replace the love and sex you have together. Xxxx

 

[meet_the_fockers]

Exactly....nothing beats the sex that you have with your partner within your relationship. Swinging is and should be fun but it doesnt replace the love and sex you have together. Xxxx

Myself n mr F make love.. well sometimes its just sex i suppose.. when it gets a bit frantic.
But with other people its not lovemaking, its just lustful sex.

 

[Scrunchy&Muffet]

Myself n mr F make love.. well sometimes its just sex i suppose.. when it gets a bit frantic.
But with other people its not lovemaking, its just lustful sex.

Yeah thats what i was tryin to convey. Im not good with words sometimes lol. But yeah i knw what youre saying xxxx

 

[Pearls]

Exactly....nothing beats the sex that you have with your partner within your relationship. Swinging is and should be fun but it doesnt replace the love and sex you have together. Xxxx

 

[mrclouse]

i think im vey jealous but not with people i play with, i guess its more of a i am greedy when i date someone >.> but when it comes to paying i kindof think of it as just playing

 

[Wheels5885]

Having read this thread I have to admit that I have been jealous through no fault of anyones but mine. I want to experience new things and have done but at the same time its made me realise what I cant do and that for me is extremely tricky . in terms of jealousy with other partners on occasion its happened but especially in this scene you have to accept everything at face value and as a single male realise that its mutual enjoyment.

To pick up on @Admin point about approaching @Pearls for enjoyment without his knowledge is just plain rude and as a single male I wouldn't even dream of asking a couple to play without everyones agreement or it does not happen.

The swinging scene in my eyes is to enjoy and explore if you have any issues it generally brings it to the surface. Swinging does not fix anything its there to add to and enhance an already strong relationship.

For me when I stop enjoying what this scene has to offer I take myself away from it.

Please note that these are just my views and are not ment to cause offense to anyone.