Not sure its for me, for various reasons:
For any relationship, proximity is key - I've tried a distance relationship where we could only see each other so many weeks/months apart and that didn't work: I'd need daily physical interaction, even if its just sitting together.
I'm emotionally unavailable. I know this about myself. Its not that I can't commit, quite the opposite: I've found committing to me is a bit like sky diving - you jump out with faith hoping your parachute works, in this sense the other person is there for you through thick and thin. In my experience sadly people can be disappoint, and I've been burned one too many times.
Relationships are hard work: with one person its not an easy task to constantly stimulate one's significant other mentally, emotionally, romantically. Based on my understanding, a poly relationship would mean having to do this for as many people are in the relationship so no one is feeling left out.
So, I stick to swinging. Its not that I don't appreciate the people I'm with: when we are together they are my primary priority, I'm just very aware once we go our separate ways, that priority drops just as much as they have other things and priorities to attend to.
For any relationship, proximity is key - I've tried a distance relationship where we could only see each other so many weeks/months apart and that didn't work: I'd need daily physical interaction, even if its just sitting together.
I'm emotionally unavailable. I know this about myself. Its not that I can't commit, quite the opposite: I've found committing to me is a bit like sky diving - you jump out with faith hoping your parachute works, in this sense the other person is there for you through thick and thin. In my experience sadly people can be disappoint, and I've been burned one too many times.
Relationships are hard work: with one person its not an easy task to constantly stimulate one's significant other mentally, emotionally, romantically. Based on my understanding, a poly relationship would mean having to do this for as many people are in the relationship so no one is feeling left out.
So, I stick to swinging. Its not that I don't appreciate the people I'm with: when we are together they are my primary priority, I'm just very aware once we go our separate ways, that priority drops just as much as they have other things and priorities to attend to.
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. Fixed em I think.