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Discussion in 'General Chats' started by Lips_Pearls, 21 June 2019.

  1. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    You will be like;
    We were safe there
    We were treated as equals
    I was not excluded based on: Gender, sexuality, race, opinion, expression, being equal..
    I was made to feel at home
    I was welcomed
    I never suffered abuse like this
    We never had to go through this kind of shit
    We never felt so degraded
    I/we never had any form of abuse there
    I/we always appreciated how friendly everything was
    I/we always appreciated our/mine photo comments
    I/we never felt treated like a piece of meat in a meat market
    I/we never felt exposed

    Sadly, we always take for granted what we have.
    Imagine life as a piece of meat, in a meat market society... That sound good to you?
    Well that is what would happen if it goes.
    Yet it's all too easy to take it for granted.


    You, yourselves, can make, shape and create the site. Don't use it as a throwaway dispensary item. If you're harmful to the site? You're harmful to the community.
    I know we'd never, ever suffer abuse and sheer degradation here than elsewhere, so why try to destroy it?
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  2. GeoffRy

    GeoffRy PV Sprtr

    Dont you dare try to take this site away from us. We wont allow it. ANYONE.

    I/We are amazed at how much we enjoy things here after years of consideration we plucked up the courage and joined and it was the best thing for our relationship for years and years. Keep up the good work all Admins e.t.c. XxG
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  3. Stew

    Stew PV Sprtr

    What’s happenned ?
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  4. Stew

    Stew PV Sprtr

    Why funny wtf did I miss the second coming ? An atomic bomb?
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  5. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    Thank you both. We know you are very sincere and know what the site & friends have brought to you.
    You're cornerstone members ;) x

    Days are numbered? Who knows...
    Swinging is a dying game isn't it?
    Apps, new tech... etc etc.. You know what we mean? So time is against us, isn't it... ;)

    We will be literally like this;


    But anyone who hurts us while doing so?

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    They stand out Stew... know what I mean? :D

    Let's hope for the future of a site that really cares for people.
    Hell, we've been counsellors for people! Let alone a swinging site! ;) x
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  6. Brumcouple2013

    Brumcouple2013 PV Sprtr

    Not sure what’s gone on to create such post.
    But this is one site where we feel safe, we’re we know neither of us will be treated with disrespect or like a piece of meat.
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  7. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    Will never happen - and in typical oxymoron stylie, if it does? Tell us and you know it'll be dealt with ;) x

    Not like the rest.
    take care of what you have. Pulling the rug is shameful. x
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  8. Stew

    Stew PV Sprtr

    I know the sites been quiet of late I’m not sure why but it’s still at the core of the swinging community on here and across the web.
    Many of the old guard have gone quiet and many new people have come in and whilst they maybe different to the site norm it doesn’t make them bad people !
    Maybe it’s the world turning and a new evolution of the site !
    The work you two and the mods put in is so greatly appreciated and always has been the reason the site hasn’t gone the way of the other meat markets !
    I was once told “ the only constant is change “ and “ if you aren’t part of the solution you must be part of the problem.”

    Onwards and upwards ! :tiphat:
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  9. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    Oh and PS - nothing has happened per-se okay? Just a realisation that apps and such have not kept swinging underground anymore.
    We're now exposed.
    Snapping n chatting is where it's at. Contact sites are dead.
    If they're alive? You bet your bottom arsed pound that someone is suggesting to join elsewhere, because it's an easy fuck...
    Swinging as it is, is changing. Not the lifestyle - but the people who portray to live it.
    This is why it's so difficult for real swingers to find mirage.. x
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  10. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    Has it? I wake up to 30-70+ alerts daily. Maybe you're not getting the right alerts.

    Thank you. Aye, be part of the solution then and not part of the problem.
    If sites like ours are to survive, we need keen and active peeps. Not rug lifters. ;)

    Our ratings?
    Feel the love! What a great thread! :love: x
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  11. Brumcouple2013

    Brumcouple2013 PV Sprtr

    We have been on the scene nearly six years, on several different sites. Some of those sites you all will know.

    Swinging as changed a hell of a lot during that time, and is no longer what it use to be. This is mainly why we stepped away last year. Swinging as drawn so much attention of the last few years, with documentaries on the scene, news articles (good and bad). It has attracted the attention of many people , some who wouldn’t have thought about getting involved years ago. This has brought a very mixed bag of people, good and bad to sites like this, it’s also brought us sites that only want to take your money and don’t manage the sites. This allows the bad to spoil swinging for the good.
    Swinging is becoming mire of a meat market and thankfully we have a site like this where the admins and mods do manage the site and make it a place to come and enjoy swinging.
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  12. MP386

    MP386 PV Sprtr

    First I’d have to agree with @Stew the site for me has seemed quite , I don’t get a huge amount of alerts unless @Pearls is on catch up :p that may be down to the number of people I follow that are still active ...
    I’ve been here a while now and it’s not an uncommon situation for me to have things come up :whistle: then things drop off :D it’s the way the sites been in my experience...
    yes I did try the “other place “ but that has been assigned to the bottomless pit of despair too may prima donnas and fakes up their own arses thinking they are God’s gift ....
    I will put my hands up and say I do text and “AppWpp”:confused: people that I have met every now and then but to me that’s just messaging a friend, I see no wrong in that :)
    Swinging for me has been an experience I wouldn’t have had without this site , ok it may not be as regular as I may like but that’s just other life problems ands interests taking up time .... all offers on a postcard :tiphat: ..... with all this chatting has anyone suggested an “Old Skool” keys in a bowl meet ?? Although knowing my luck I’d get the single blokes key :rofl::rofl: :bj1::eek::eek:
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  13. mrclouse

    mrclouse PV Sprtr

    Apps and so are are flooded with Instagram models and people selling Thier services to be honest they are like a newer version of creaigslist where if you do meet there's a good chance to get a stalker. I think a site like this where it protects it's users and actually cares should last for a long time... Especially when your always looking for ways to improve and upgrade it .
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  14. Lips_Pearls

    Lips_Pearls PV Sprtr

    So, ask yourselves this;
    ‘What can I do, proactively, to further enhance my experience and that of those around me, on here?’

    If everyone just took five minutes each morning to even just post a ‘hello & good morning’ on someone’s profile, is enough to make some people’s days.
    Fed up with other sites? Then March and vote with your feet. Clinging on anywhere else actually helps and perpetuates, slow-downs on here.
    We all know that specific apps are flooded with; fakes, phishing, paedophiles, pic collectors.
    We all know that you can open yourselves up to risk from so many things - but here you’re provided with anonymity. Safety.

    Spread the love, tell your friends. Tell your friends’ friends. Tell your FWB on other sites.
    You here, are part of this site and help shape it. As we’ve always said; we merely provide the platform. The safety. It’s you who can make it and you who can make the change.
    Sitting back and waiting for something to happen, achieves diddly squat. ;) x
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  15. GeoffRy

    GeoffRy PV Sprtr

    @Lips_Pearls, You guys are legends!
    We flippantly toyed for years with possibly, maybe, eventually, one-day, perhaps joining a site (though I hate the label [*whispers*] "Swingers"), due to cliches/stereotypes, plus the idea of justifying ourselves for exploring fantasties when we're clearly so happy together. After all, our true friends are aware of historical playtime already, and don't "get it".
    However, we accidentally stumbled here when researching a new local club in an article online.
    I was apprehensive at first ("If it ain't broke, don't fix it"), but, we are what we are because we believe in grabbing chances & experiences by the balls. It can only result in a lesson learned. Regret nothing.
    We are so very glad that it was this actual site that we found, especially when so many horror stories exist. We've had great nights out, and genuinely believe we are building lasting friendships with some of you wonderful freaky peeps.
    This site will survive due to the way it's run, those that contribute, and the variety of related topics discussed, especially in a world governed by those who want to demonize our ideas.
    Thank you Xx
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  16. Stew

    Stew PV Sprtr

    Excellent post Ry very nicely put x
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  17. Tiger

    Tiger PV Sprtr

    Likewise, I would consider you both @GeoffRy among my best & freakiest friends! :sneaky: :whistle: (y)
    None of that would have been possible, with out this site! @Lips_Pearls thank you!
    Tiger xx
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  18. Pearls

    Pearls #PearlsTechSupport Sprtr

    Thankyou both. I haven’t replied to the thread. (Not like me eh) :D I shall tomorrow though and give a little of my thoughts :eek::whistle: It’ll be nice :) xx
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  19. The-Gent

    The-Gent PV Sprtr

    Its tomorrow Pearl ??
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  20. Pearls

    Pearls #PearlsTechSupport Sprtr

    It is. Thank you kindly. I shall give my reply very shortly :D
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  21. The-Gent

    The-Gent PV Sprtr

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  22. Pearls

    Pearls #PearlsTechSupport Sprtr

    Morning folks, hope you’ve all had your weetabix :D

    Ok getting back to this.. :eek: Yes you know me, not to beat about the bush! Well maybe on some occasion :whistle:

    So firstly and most importantly for us both is the site name, when we started this, we wanted to create something that was the complete opposite of drab mingers (and yes, drab and mingers is what it is) after spending years on there. We love the scene but we loved making friends and socialising but that site just couldn’t give us what we were looking for, yes we made friends but we just never felt the site was a fun place to be and lack of security played hugely on our minds, especially everything being so public.

    So Social Swingers began and we still do feel it was the best thing we've ever done but going back to the name.. Social!
    If I were to take you guys back 5 years then you wouldn't recognise the place, being social is what it was all about, fun was the name of the game and the swingers that were on the same wave length as us had a damn good time here, now you’re thinking what’s changed?

    Sadly not us.
    What’s changed is the scene and people which I've tried emphasising in other threads.
    Swingers five years ago are not the same now and that’s down to simply and sadly, no understanding fully on how it works and basic etiquette, yes it’s true, also swinging back then was still very much underground, due to other places, dating apps and press it’s been ruined. Long gone are the days of pampas grass and keys in a bowl.

    Swinging isn't dating or looking to date or looking for love, swinging isn't about being unfaithful with meets and I mean meets not personal circumstances, yes it happens, swinging isn't about “fancy a shag tonight”

    Going back again to this site.
    Social is in the name and swingers we are but if this isn't you then jog on and this is why..
    We only want social people here and if you want any tips on being social online then it’s simple, interact or acknowledge.
    Negativity is breeding and it’s all down to a select few but others are following suit.
    If you look below you will all see what we see, who has viewed the thread, now you may not like the thread and have no intention of replying in it, fair enough.. Is it fair though to ignore it? What is the problem in acknowledging it with a like. Let’s be honest do you think as staff we would allow a thread to stay if it were in extreme poor taste?
    We delete regularly for your protection.
    By a simply like on a post or thread you are not only being social but creating content and as the boss says, content is king. That simple alert to someone shows interaction.

    We have sat back for a little while and watched, watched our once fun and honest site turn into a place that isn't what we thought would ever become,
    The same people interacting but only with each other, god forbid a new person tries to get involved, remember what we created and remember we wanted a site that is social for swingers.

    So for us personally, people who are ignorant and rude, we will not interact with you and I say ignorant because there are many that are.
    If people want to view our threads and our posts especially pic of the day where we choose to add our personal photos and they simply view and walk by then you should choose a site that isn’t socially interactive
    I have mentioned before, if someone tries to chat to you in public, maybe at an event, would you look at them and say nothing?
    Would we meet people personally or at an event that chooses to ignore us here online? Hell no.
    Our pet hate is pure ignorance and bad manners.

    Oh and to all the haters that want to argue that they have the choice or right to like or not, ask yourself this, if you are a swinger and enjoy being social online then there is your answer.

    One last thing, we get plonkas join daily, some are banned before they get through the door, some we give the benefit of the doubt, I had a message Tuesday morning off a young man, you may have seen on my profile, the message read,
    “Hi gorgeous, nice legs, I would love to get to know you better so can you give me your number so we can whatsapp”
    We as a couple exchange numbers with who ever we meet, yet we have never chatted apart from the odd message here and there and still only do so here, how can we keep activity here when people get dragged away?
    You may say that’s what most do! If we were a big site then it can take it but we are small so the damage will hit us sadly, if a newbie joins and goes straight into messaging offering numbers then what chance to we have eh?

    So when it’s gone..
    It will be gone sadly because it’s not the socially fun place we created, we are still the fun social swingers we were when we started and we will carry on to be with or with out the site, just remember folks we started this for personal fun as we couldn't cope with other sites.
    We provide you with a platform For you, we give you the opportunity to meet people, if it wasn't for this site you wouldn't have the group of friends you have.
    As staff we moderate daily and put up with crap from people that you have no idea about but we do it to supply you all with a safe haven, all we ask in return is activity.

    If you don’t want to be a social swinger then when it’s gone all you’ll have is the group of friends you have.

    As owners and human beings we will focus on people who enjoy what we offer and nothing less. As for the future of the site, remember folks it’s you who make or break it and we can’t carry it. You have the tools to create content and show interaction, don’t wait for us to do it. If you want to be a part of this then you can run the show without us.

    Our advertising when we first started was
    Social swinging, a site designed for swingers by swingers.. A welcoming community!

    We still go by that motto and will carry on to do so but you guys are the ones that need to understand being unsociable isn't going to help this site evolve.

    I hope I've given a little insight into what we are about and what we tried to achieve here.
    Lots of love
    Admin and me :love:xx
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  23. Pearls

    Pearls #PearlsTechSupport Sprtr

    Oh and sorry to the folks who are on a mobile :eek:
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