Lets hope peeps take on board what is written here as the title says "When it goes" its gone.
Exactly Colin and there are people here that have a home, it would be sadLets hope peeps take on board what is written here as the title says "When it goes" its gone.
Thanks both.
No worries...i'll just bill you for the data usageOh and sorry to the folks who are on a mobile
We are honest with posts, we write what we see and from the heart, it’s been an emotional journey of ups and downs for us in the last five years and no one can say we haven’t given 100% from working 14 hours every day at the cost of our family just so we can give. Has it been worth it? Of course but we won’t let the site fail down to members and not us. The site name says it all. We get alerts for a reason.You speak the truth and I can openly admit that I like a lot of posts, and sometimes don't engage in them, mainly because I nip on for a quick look at work and think I'll get back to that, but always get side tracked. Stupid, as without this site we wouldn't have met/had such sexy times with some fantastic people. S xxxx
your just my hero xOh and I’ll add even if I don’t reply to anyone, I’ll always like or rate their post unless I haven’t got me eyes on.
Luvs ya too :mwah:your just my hero x
I shall come back to this thread once i see if the other 24 out of 34 viewers make some kind of reply
We are honest with posts, we write what we see and from the heart, it’s been an emotional journey of ups and downs for us in the last five years and no one can say we haven’t given 100% from working 14 hours every day at the cost of our family just so we can give. Has it been worth it? Of course but we won’t let the site fail down to members and not us. The site name says it all. We get alerts for a reason.
I had 8 views on my profile the other day when I did a status but the status wasn’t liked, why constantly view me then? What is the problem in an acknowledgement? Would people ignore a person in the street that says good morning to them?
Simple etiquette goes a long way in this scene and it also shows what kind of person you are, I know who we would want to meet.
It’s the same for verifications, more and more people are choosing to not leave verifications and ask others not to leave them (obviously have something to hide)
If people can’t see verifications then what does that show?
It’s swinging etiquette to do so and has always been that way.
Anyway drifting both, sorry and you are valuable members that certainly aren’t ignorant in any way, crickey we met and you talk for Walesxx
Excuse me Lancashire ya meanI know what you mean.. Sometimes its annoying, very annoying!
And what do you mean talk for wales, Yorkshire ya mean! !! And thank you means a lot. This site, you guys and all the staff make it an amazing environment to be in S xxxx
You are great members guys and interact, you say it’s hard to get meets, for us that has always been the easy side of it but have you thought about checking profiles that haven’t been active and sending a message? If you notice when we send messages from the site, people come on. They get the email notification. Even if the account hasn’t a PV they still can be genuine. There is so much to offer on the site but it’s not being used to it’s advantage.Some great posts here.. We joined the site after looking at a few others that were basically crap.. We do engage with new members all the time with messages and offering help about navigating round the site.. Some keep in contact and start following you but the majority only seem to last a few days or maybe a couple of weeks.. We always try to help or offer some advice as we remember how hard it was when we first joined.. Interacting with new people can be quite daunting. Its not as easy as people thats why it's important to make new members feel welcome. I think arranging meets is a lot harder than people realise as we are finding out.. Real life has a habit of throwing a spanner in the works.. Quite regularly actually.. We interact with as many people as we can.. Its a bit awkward with us both working permanent nights.. We would love to meet up with a lot more people from here and hopefully this second half of the year we will.. Going back to threads we try and rate most if the topics we view and on the whole we find the members on this site fantastic people and really genuine.. I think the site is a fun place to be and we are both really enjoying it.. Hopefully it will continue W.. X
Nope Yorkshire all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Excuse me Lancashire ya mean
#WalesNope Yorkshire all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for the advice will have a good look round this weekend..I've managed to get Saturday morning off so will have a look on Friday night..W.xxYou are great members guys and interact, you say it’s hard to get meets, for us that has always been the easy side of it but have you thought about checking profiles that haven’t been active and sending a message? If you notice when we send messages from the site, people come on. They get the email notification. Even if the account hasn’t a PV they still can be genuine. There is so much to offer on the site but it’s not being used to it’s advantage.
Keep enjoying both, I know you had a tricky start as you know. Thankyou for being here xx
Morning folks, hope you’ve all had your weetabix
Ok getting back to this..Yes you know me, not to beat about the bush! Well maybe on some occasion
So firstly and most importantly for us both is the site name, when we started this, we wanted to create something that was the complete opposite of drab mingers (and yes, drab and mingers is what it is) after spending years on there. We love the scene but we loved making friends and socialising but that site just couldn’t give us what we were looking for, yes we made friends but we just never felt the site was a fun place to be and lack of security played hugely on our minds, especially everything being so public.
So Social Swingers began and we still do feel it was the best thing we've ever done but going back to the name.. Social!
If I were to take you guys back 5 years then you wouldn't recognise the place, being social is what it was all about, fun was the name of the game and the swingers that were on the same wave length as us had a damn good time here, now you’re thinking what’s changed?
Sadly not us.
What’s changed is the scene and people which I've tried emphasising in other threads.
Swingers five years ago are not the same now and that’s down to simply and sadly, no understanding fully on how it works and basic etiquette, yes it’s true, also swinging back then was still very much underground, due to other places, dating apps and press it’s been ruined. Long gone are the days of pampas grass and keys in a bowl.
Swinging isn't dating or looking to date or looking for love, swinging isn't about being unfaithful with meets and I mean meets not personal circumstances, yes it happens, swinging isn't about “fancy a shag tonight”
Going back again to this site.
Social is in the name and swingers we are but if this isn't you then jog on and this is why..
We only want social people here and if you want any tips on being social online then it’s simple, interact or acknowledge.
Negativity is breeding and it’s all down to a select few but others are following suit.
If you look below you will all see what we see, who has viewed the thread, now you may not like the thread and have no intention of replying in it, fair enough.. Is it fair though to ignore it? What is the problem in acknowledging it with a like. Let’s be honest do you think as staff we would allow a thread to stay if it were in extreme poor taste?
We delete regularly for your protection.
By a simply like on a post or thread you are not only being social but creating content and as the boss says, content is king. That simple alert to someone shows interaction.
We have sat back for a little while and watched, watched our once fun and honest site turn into a place that isn't what we thought would ever become,
The same people interacting but only with each other, god forbid a new person tries to get involved, remember what we created and remember we wanted a site that is social for swingers.
So for us personally, people who are ignorant and rude, we will not interact with you and I say ignorant because there are many that are.
If people want to view our threads and our posts especially pic of the day where we choose to add our personal photos and they simply view and walk by then you should choose a site that isn’t socially interactive
I have mentioned before, if someone tries to chat to you in public, maybe at an event, would you look at them and say nothing?
Would we meet people personally or at an event that chooses to ignore us here online? Hell no.
Our pet hate is pure ignorance and bad manners.
Oh and to all the haters that want to argue that they have the choice or right to like or not, ask yourself this, if you are a swinger and enjoy being social online then there is your answer.
One last thing, we get plonkas join daily, some are banned before they get through the door, some we give the benefit of the doubt, I had a message Tuesday morning off a young man, you may have seen on my profile, the message read,
“Hi gorgeous, nice legs, I would love to get to know you better so can you give me your number so we can ******”
We as a couple exchange numbers with who ever we meet, yet we have never chatted apart from the odd message here and there and still only do so here, how can we keep activity here when people get dragged away?
You may say that’s what most do! If we were a big site then it can take it but we are small so the damage will hit us sadly, if a newbie joins and goes straight into messaging offering numbers then what chance to we have eh?
So when it’s gone..
It will be gone sadly because it’s not the socially fun place we created, we are still the fun social swingers we were when we started and we will carry on to be with or with out the site, just remember folks we started this for personal fun as we couldn't cope with other sites.
We provide you with a platform For you, we give you the opportunity to meet people, if it wasn't for this site you wouldn't have the group of friends you have.
As staff we moderate daily and put up with crap from people that you have no idea about but we do it to supply you all with a safe haven, all we ask in return is activity.
If you don’t want to be a social swinger then when it’s gone all you’ll have is the group of friends you have.
As owners and human beings we will focus on people who enjoy what we offer and nothing less. As for the future of the site, remember folks it’s you who make or break it and we can’t carry it. You have the tools to create content and show interaction, don’t wait for us to do it. If you want to be a part of this then you can run the show without us.
Our advertising when we first started was
Social swinging, a site designed for swingers by swingers.. A welcoming community!
We still go by that motto and will carry on to do so but you guys are the ones that need to understand being unsociable isn't going to help this site evolve.
I hope I've given a little insight into what we are about and what we tried to achieve here.
Lots of love
Admin and mexx
:cuffs:Admittedly, I’ve been quiet recently and probably turned into one of those people that views things to keep updated but won’t comment much. I generally turn up to site half asleep or after a long day and am probably not approaching this place with the right level of care and attention.
Totally understand where you’re coming from and even if I don’t have anything to add to threads, I’ll remember to acknowledge what others are saying with the ‘like’ buttons and such.
Xxx
Tbh I’ve never seen you interact much, just view threads but no acknowledgement. Like I’ve said before would you ignore someone who communicates in RL?Admittedly, I’ve been quiet recently and probably turned into one of those people that views things to keep updated but generally won’t comment. I generally turn up to site half asleep or after a long day and am probably not approaching this place with the right level of care and attention.
Totally understand where you’re coming from and even if I don’t have anything to add to threads, I’ll remember to acknowledge what others are saying with the ‘like’ buttons and such.
Xxx
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