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Lovestruckcpl said:
Although we are new here and only just finding our way around, I feel I should contribute to this thread with my opinion of what is a very complex issue.
We have for a few years now played around with the notion of finding another man to be a 'lover' to my wife Jenny. This is something that started out as a fantasy of mine a long long time ago....and after having previous experiences when much younger.
Jenny was at first very dismissive of the idea and took a long time to warm to the possibilities another man could bring into our love life. After much discussion and reassurance, we joined a couple of 'adult sites'...one in particular directed solely at cuckold relationships. We thought that it would be easy to find that 'special someone' who understood our needs, AND who clicked with Jenny when the time came to get physical. How very wrong we were :(. Although we had spent a good while filling out our profile and stating exactly what we are looking for, as well as our boundaries and limitations, we became inundated with messages and cock pics from so called 'Bulls' who claimed to know exactly what my wife needed and would give it to her good like I never could! Weeding out the genuine ones who didn't have an over zealous opinion of how good there technique was and how BIG their tackle was became our first nightmare. Then came the task of trying to find one amongst them who actually gave a sh*t about who you were as a person and what your likes and dislikes where. As the list got shorter (and patience wore thinner) we eventually narrowed it down to two possible men. The first became very intense with emails, chats and talks on the phone and we thought we'd cracked it! BUT....we arranged to meet him on two occasions and he sadly didn't show :( (maybe his wife had found out??). Not to be put off, we continued contact with the second guy and again arranged a social meeting. This one did turn up!....but OMG how we wish he hadn't :(. To say there was no chemistry is an understatement!
To cut a long story very short this all put Jenny off the idea for a long time and we didn't make much effort after that. Her confidence was shattered and it certainly didn't seem fair to be asking her to carry on with it.
Fortunately everything changed for us a few months ago when Jenny became friends with a local guy who is much younger than her. I cannot disclose how they met or what he does but they began seeing eachother socially on a regular basis and chatting etc. It became clear to me that she found this guy attractive and so I asked the obvious questions...'does he flirt with you? do you think he could be a possible lover? do you find him sexually attractive etc. etc.' The answers to my delight were 'Yes' to all :)
Cutting it short again....Jenny and him ended up having a very sexy encounter which involved lots of kissing touching and mutual masturbation, and they are now very good friends who talk and text regularly :) Sadly, we have left the area and there is now some distance between us and so a repeat liaison has not yet been possible....but it is definately something that I hope happens again in the near future.
Sorry if I'm rabbiting on too much here, but the points I wanted to make are:-
1. Finding the right person can be damn near impossible sometimes (especially if your HSP's like us) and even after many emails/conversations/chats etc. The real test will be what happens when you do actually meet face to face! Then of course the problem might be how to respectfully turn down the offer! (beam me up Scottie!!)
2. Every couple and every situation is different, we personally hate the term 'Cuckold' with a vengeance. It has throughout history been a derogatory term used to humiliate men who's wives are unfaithful. My wife is never, and would never be unfaithful ; and I am certainly not a wimp in panties who needs to be humiliated by someone with much bigger equipment and prowess whilst he bangs away relentlessly at my wife as she moans through her tenth multiple orgasm! :)
Whilst I agree fully that there are many benefits to having a third man in the bedroom, and it is indeed our main reason for joining this site, it would be better for us at least if the terms 'cuckold, bull, hotwife, slut' etc. etc. were not used should any potential suitor contact us :)
Hmm, now if only I hadn't started on this I could have been filling out our bloody profile! lol :)
We are nice 'normal' people really, and I just wanted to add my thoughts....apologies if I have offended anyone in any way.

Keep having fun guys....we'll catch up with you again later :)
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Brilliant, just brilliant... thankyou for sharing your interesting story.
Yes compatability.. is sometimes hard to find. X
 
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'Me and my mouth!...what have I started with all this doggy stuff?!' :unsure: Tut...you sick puppies :rolleyes:.
 
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As a complete newbie, very fascinating and lovely to read sensitive writing. I get the point about the role of friendship and intimacy between the woman and third man...but how does any relationship between the two men pan out?
 
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As a complete newbie, very fascinating and lovely to read sensitive writing. I get the point about the role of friendship and intimacy between the woman and third man...but how does any relationship between the two men pan out?
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Well I can't speak for anybody else...but for us there would be a bond of friendship and trust between the guys, an understanding of boundaries, and would be strictly straight in nature :). But that's just us...I'm sure many couples would appreciate a little Bi-male connection, and more still the aforementioned humiliation by an alpha male...but like I say, not for us.

This does however raise a long standing question that me and Jen have been asking ourselves for a long while, and perhaps is the topic of another thread sometime.....hmm, watch this space :cautious: :)
 
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Lovestruckcpl said:
Well I can't speak for anybody else...but for us there would be a bond of friendship and trust between the guys, an understanding of boundaries, and would be strictly straight in nature :). But that's just us...I'm sure many couples would appreciate a little Bi-male connection, and more still the aforementioned humiliation by an alpha male...but like I say, not for us.

This does however raise a long standing question that me and Jen have been asking ourselves for a long while, and perhaps is the topic of another thread sometime.....hmm, watch this space :cautious: :)
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Yes...it raises more questions than answers. Friendship, honesty, respect and somehow still clear about who the main man is, seems a good start...
 
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