I was introduced to swinging having come out of a 6 year (at the time, vanilla) relationship. Never knew anything about the lifestyle, so just wanted to enjoy myself. That has worked so far, and in that time have had some close bonds.
I even met my (until 2 and 1/2 weeks ago, now ex) partner on the scene, and we made the most of 9 years despite my not seeking a relationship.
So, despite recent developments, current mindset? I'm STILL not seeking a relationship: If I want one, I'll look on a non-swinging site.
I may have said this before but will say it again: can 2 people find each other? Ofcourse they can, and nothing wrong with that.
The problem begins when someone actively tries to use the swinging scene to find a relationship, and are not being honest with the prosect they have their eye on, who just wants to swing.