This is it. We don’t all have the same fingerprint. So it means we’re all different. If we all agreed on everything, wouldn’t the place be boring.
I’ll share a story with you about the same thing but real life stuff.
A few months back, as some will know, Friday nights I spend with our 70 year old neighbour. We go down the garden pub and drink and play chess. We play music. I put music on he likes. Some of which I’m partial to myself too.
Anyway, I’ve (we’ve) known him 20 years now. Done a lot of things together. Just like we did last night.
But this evening in question was different. He’d been drinking in the afternoon and hammered the whisky that night.
We were all in there, our youngest, our squaddie son, my wife and our friend.
All of a sudden and for a simple disagreement on ONE thing, he violently attacked me.
He repeatedly punched me in the face several times. Broke my nose in fact.
He’s 70. There was no way on this planet I’d take my fist to him as God only knows how it would have ended up.
Instead, I stood up, lifted him off his feet and threw him out of the pub onto the gravel and away from me.
As soon as I did so, I was literally the first person there to pick him up. He’d cut his head on the shingle but I needed to take care of him. Bearing in mind by this point my family watched it all and I’ve a broken nose and battered face - so blood everywhere.
Walked him home and he and his son had a Barney.
The next day I went to the pub to clean up and I spotted his door was open. I knew that unless I took initiative and sorted it there and then, we’d never speak again.
So I walked in, bloody nosed and all and said - pour me a whisky and let’s talk.
We sorted it there and then over two hours and for me, for him, that was it. It was done.
like I said to him, a mistake shouldn’t affect friendship and family.
I took the initiative because I knew he wouldn’t.
Now, we look back and laugh. I ribbed him for a bit over it, he laughed but I knew he felt guilty. But it was done.
A few months down the road (ie now) - my nose is still broken but our friendship remains.
We ALL make mistakes. We’re all not going to agree. We’re not all going to be on the same page. It’s called human nature.
We can make mistakes and move on, but being wise enough to adapt and learn from it is most important.
It’s taken me almost 30 mins to write this lol when I’m supposed to be doing family time stuff.
Here’s my snozzle from that evening. We played chess last night and had a blast of an evening, because I CHOSE to ensure to clean it up and face it head on, rather than leave it fester.
Peace ✌?
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