Alas Poor Yorick

[Truckingscouser]

its nothing like that, you need to build trust and friendship. The days of people just meeting for sex i think are long gone.

The thing is Kev, nobody seems to want to give you an 'in'
In order to build up friendship and trust, they've got to allow you to get to know them, It's the same in the chatrooms, you go in, say hello, one person MAY say hello, then that's it and the regular crew just banter between themselves, and it feels like standing at a bar listening to a group of people talking and trying to get into the convo, which you wouldn't do, i dunno, i'm sorry for coming across as a negative Nigel :-/

 

[Truckingscouser]

Well one must ask how quick do you actually want to move - are you being superman or Flash Gordon as it shows you only joined today exactly 2 and 1/2 hrs ago ?

No D&D i was a member of that other group for ages, i'm not talking about this one, it's only coz there's a forum to talk about this that i actually am doing

 

[Deleted member 19022]

The thing is Kev, nobody seems to want to give you an 'in'
In order to build up friendship and trust, they've got to allow you to get to know them, It's the same in the chatrooms, you go in, say hello, one person MAY say hello, then that's it and the regular crew just banter between themselves, and it feels like standing at a bar listening to a group of people talking and trying to get into the convo, which you wouldn't do, i dunno, i'm sorry for coming across as a negative Nigel :-/

Its hard I know. I rarely use the chat rooms. I tend to get involved in the forums, people get to know you and respond. Then gradually work your way in to the chat rooms. By then people know you and are more willing to chat.

 

[DandDforfun]

No D&D i was a member of that other group for ages, i'm not talking about this one, it's only coz there's a forum to talk about this that i actually am doing

Ahh that makes a little more sense now ?

 

[Truckingscouser]

Ahh that makes a little more sense now ?

Yeah i wouldn't dream of joining a site like this for the first time and bemoan the fact i've been here for 2 and a half hours and not been laid yet

 

[Truckingscouser]

I remember the days of yahoo groups and msn groups, everything was chat based then pretty much, very fast paced too, managed to get a meet off there too

 

[Truckingscouser]

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To block or not block? If one disagrees with another, should blocking be an option purely based on opines or on reasons of incompatibility.
I've blocked quite a few actually, mainly to prevent them seeing our content. (Lots of enemies, can't think as to why lol)

But what does it take, for you to want to block someone on here for whatever reason(s) you may have?
For me, I have blocked peeps who have been damnright disrespectful to my wife. Some I have ignored. But, she's still my wife. Say some of the things she's dealt with on here, to her in front of me in a pub....enough said.
But online is okay aye?

So ultimately, do peeps block because of indifference or simply not agreeing to disagree, I.E pass each other by with no concern over whom or what?

I've just had a look at your pics, lips, how dare anyone be rude about that beautiful lady

 

[Tiger]

I have only ever blocked one person on here and that is @MP386 and that was only a week ago!

You may be asking yourself why? Well it is my prerogative to do what I feel is best for my own well being!

I will not go into details, however you only have to look at @MP386 attitude towards me and others on various threats/forums over the last few years, and it will become very apparent why!

Tiger xx

 

[MyKinkyWorld]

I usually try not blocking anyone, but I'm changing my mind, to be honest. For sure I want anyone not to disturb me so I assume I might block others members because of their behaviours, but I can't specify the reasons and which kinds of behaviours because it would depend on my mood at those moments.

 

[Miss-Sexy-Legs]

Ive only ever blocked 2 people for my own safety reasons .
If someone feels the need to block me then so be it , i sure wont lose sleep over it , this is a sex site at the end of the day ,not everyone ticks all the boxes required to meet others expectations

 

[Deleted member 6127]

Sure have blocked people, it’s the same for me if I was out and dick heads get on your nerves or in your face, knock them or block them..,
We’ve been blocked, not a worry to us their loss not ours.
On PV well...if people don’t, what are they hiding, it’s another level of safety put in by the staff on here. You mention to people it’s increases your credibility on the site they ignore it....fakes
Morning everyone ??? xxx :0)) T

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Seen a new profile on Friday but couldn't wish them a welcome as I was working. Went to welcome them yesterday but it said profile not available but have seen new media and reactions so I'm guessing it means I've been blocked. If that is the case I'm fuming. Makes me wonder if its worth welcoming new members. Why block someone who just looks at your profile, not even sent a message. Do people have such a high opinion of themselves that they join a social site and block people for no reason. Could have stayed on that other site to be treated like that.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Seen a new profile on Friday but couldn't wish them a welcome as I was working. Went to welcome them yesterday but it said profile not available but have seen new media and reactions so I'm guessing it means I've been blocked. If that is the case I'm fuming. Makes me wonder if its worth welcoming new members. Why block someone who just looks at your profile, not even sent a message. Do people have such a high opinion of themselves that they join a social site and block people for no reason. Could have stayed on that other site to be treated like that.

That’s a shame. Are you certain they’re still here? We’ve seen a few accounts come and go over the last few days....

 

[Deleted member 19022]

That’s a shame. Are you certain they’re still here? We’ve seen a few accounts come and go over the last few days....

Can't be certain but see new media added and reactions from 25 to 33

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Can't be certain but see new media added and reactions from 25 to 33

Hmm. Oh well, shame but sometimes it’s accidental too.

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Hmm. Oh well, shame but sometimes it’s accidental too.

Maybe accidentally done maybe not.

 

[Tiger]

Maybe accidentally done maybe not.

I think the problem is people coming from other sites where that site has a toxic culture, so they have a defensive attitude from the get go!

There is a very good Ted talk where the speaker explains that if you put the same person into different environments they will adopt that environment! Meaning they have been forced to defend themselves for so long they have become defensive, and now that is how they think everyone is! Given time they will see that Social swinging isn’t like that in the whole!

The more time they spend on here their attitude will begin to change & hopefully they will become less defensive!

 

[sthwalescpl]

The block option is one of a number of tools that the site provides to help us enjoy it. I dont block arbitrarily, but if someone gives us reason, then it happens. Mostly people are pretty good on here, we have only blocked a small number due to disagreements, we mainly block if someone views our profile (especially if its more than once) but doesnt contact us, we take that as a sign that they arent interested, so we remove the possibility that we will contact them and offend them at some future point.

 

[Deleted member 19022]

The block option is one of a number of tools that the site provides to help us enjoy it. I dont block arbitrarily, but if someone gives us reason, then it happens. Mostly people are pretty good on here, we have only blocked a small number due to disagreements, we mainly block if someone views our profile (especially if its more than once) but doesnt contact us, we take that as a sign that they arent interested, so we remove the possibility that we will contact them and offend them at some future point.

Sometimes it may be that they are interested just shy, especially if they are new to this lifestyle. I do look at profiles but not make contact as I am quite shy plus after the last site I was on it wasn't worth trying to contact members as they have their own little groups and the response I usually got was often rude and offensive. It does knock your confidence eventually.

 

[sthwalescpl]

Sometimes it may be that they are interested just shy, especially if they are new to this lifestyle. I do look at profiles but not make contact as I am quite shy plus after the last site I was on it wasn't worth trying to contact members as they have their own little groups and the response I usually got was often rude and offensive. It does knock your confidence eventually.

People use the site in different ways, some guys will use it as a sort of "porn" site, just viewing pics, which is ok, but it does sometimes come across as a little creepy. If someone is "too shy" to message, then I would venture perhaps swinging isnt for them...lets face it, if you cant bring yourself to type a message to someone, then you arent going to be able to get nekkid and have some fun with them, are you lol?

 

[Deleted member 19022]

People use the site in different ways, some guys will use it as a sort of "porn" site, just viewing pics, which is ok, but it does sometimes come across as a little creepy. If someone is "too shy" to message, then I would venture perhaps swinging isnt for them...lets face it, if you cant bring yourself to type a message to someone, then you arent going to be able to get nekkid and have some fun with them, are you lol?

Fair point, myself personally am fine once the ice has been broken. This site has been far more welcoming than the last site I used which helps newbies. A little encouragement goes a long way

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I think the problem is people coming from other sites where that site has a toxic culture, so they have a defensive attitude from the get go!

There is a very good Ted talk where the speaker explains that if you put the same person into different environments they will adopt that environment! Meaning they have been forced to defend themselves for so long they have become defensive, and now that is how they think everyone is! Given time they will see that Social swinging isn’t like that in the whole!

The more time they spend on here their attitude will begin to change & hopefully they will become less defensive!

This ^^ ??

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Given that blocking breaks context in threads, I’m wondering if a total block in ALL aspects is necessary (as it’s always been) or perhaps it should be amended to show posts with a link to reveal.
Just my tuppenceworth. What say ye?

 

[Tiger]

Given that blocking breaks context in threads, I’m wondering if a total block in ALL aspects is necessary (as it’s always been) or perhaps it should be amended to show posts with a link to reveal.
Just my tuppenceworth. What say ye?

I guess it depends whether you’re blocking a person because you don’t want to see their posts! Or whether you don’t want them to see yours!

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I guess it depends whether you’re blocking a person because you don’t want to see their posts! Or whether you don’t want them to see yours!

True. Circumstantial.....