Let me tell you a little story...
When I was 17 or so was in WHSmiths and spotted a (glossy) interiors mag that had a (fancy) bedroom on the front cover. From the bed a (handsome) young man looked back at the viewer and, sleeping on either side, were a (fit) woman and man.
Remember staring at this for what seemed like an age and thinking -
That's IT! That's what describes me! A real light bulb moment.
Up to that point I had been in a quandary; I knew I liked women and I knew I fancied men. I knew about heterosexuality and I knew about homosexuality but didn't understand how I fitted into that. That magazine cover (never actually picked it up or read it) opened a door in my head to a space where I began to understand that it's alright to want both.
Took a few years to find the edges of it properly but I wore it as a badge - literally sometimes - I made one that said
I shag lads and lasses.
I wouldn't describe myself as Pansexual as I'm only attracted to men and women - not sexually interested in the in-between, TVs/TS, or even androgynous people. Like my men to be men and my women to be women.
That was then...
Since, tbh, I've had more shite from gay people than straights. There can be a bit of a problem within the LGBT "community' (never felt any such group adequately represented me; done Pride, whatever... I'm just not gay enough and don't really care much for the politics of it) towards bi people "Bi now, gay later" kinda thing. Suppose many gay people came out in pieces and probably used bisexuality as a crutch along the way and maybe have trouble relating to different experiences. Maybe some gay people don't like that we can live as ostensible heterosexuals and enjoy a measure of conformity... I don't know. But it an issue I've encountered on numerous occasions.
I do think it's easier to be a bi woman - it feeds fantasy - whereas bi males can be viewed more suspiciously by straight men in particular and in general as dirty little bed hoppers who spread diseases. Look at the bans many MSM* performers have on working with straight female performers in porn for instance. It's a viewpoint.
When it comes to swinging/this scene, however, it's been something of an advantage, I've found. Plenty more people are curious than repulsed and, as I do make a fair bit of noise, I'm easy to find.
*has his cake and eats it noisily*
* MSM = "men who have sex with men", ie encompassing the broad spectrum of sexualities & reasons