Ok chat 101, mainly for
@thecuteguy and
@Emmal i appreciate shyness can be crippling, but you are only ever get out of this fabulous site what you put in !
1, It's a chat based forum outside of debates no one is going to flame you unless you are crude or offensive
2, every journey starts with a single step, don't sit there waiting for messages ! Send some
3, get involved a couple of posts over a number of weeks is hardly going to make you interesting, answer stuff on forum posts, everybody has an opinion let's hear yours, it helps people gauge your character, and they may decide they want to interact with you
5, don't just make short remarks on profiles ask questions give people a reason to answer ask a question about their profile
6, be interested in people and they will be interested in you, show you have read their profile
7, put a status up at least once a day get people used to seeing you around
8, make erudite and flattering comments on pics in the gallery
9, don't machine gun, saying hi to every female in the site in the hope of getting a response is just lazy
20, pick people you like the look of read their profile maybe wink maybe follow it up with a message, ask politely if you may follow them ! Again don't machine gun be selective
Mix these with
@MickeyBlueBalls advice and you will be chatting in no time !