Members existing and new

[Deleted member 19022]

The thing is this site is not a meat market like some of the other sites.. People join thinking they will still get meets here but when they realise its not happening they go but having said that there's quite a few new members on here that are genuine and see the world is an a mess at the moment so are not expecting meets.. We will just keep welcoming everyone and people will keep coming and going then eventually you will end up with people who are prepared to wait till the pandemic is over then hopefully they will lots of naughty fun and socials with the genuine people that are left.. I hope that doesn't sound too brutal but this is the reality of the situation we're in at the moment.. W..

When I joined this site I had no expectations. I wasn't thinking there would be instant meets or anything else. It was the regular few on here that made me give it a try and stay.

 

[Deleted member 19022]

Me being brand new to this site aswell as using a different site before, this is my take on it.

The welcome I had on this site I liked because I had fit women/couples saying hello to me, also all the lads on here being friendly what's not to love ?. I think that when people join not everyone likes people messaging them straight away, I liked it but maybe some don't .

Messaging wise and actually looking to meet up I haven't even looked into and doubt I will because my attitude is if something will happen it will happen so I can't really comment on that - I don't even know how to search for people nearby ?.

The forums are not that lively but I find them enough to keep me interested throughout the day and I haven't met one asshole on here yet (bar skippy JOKES ).I joined in straight away because that's why I'm here but there is probably alot of lurkers who aren't comfortable getting involved yet or maybe at all. I dont think the amount of interaction on the site is an issue for me at all it's perfect for me.

Lastly on some of the new joiners, I looked the other day and theres some people joining at like 4 in the morning and first post saying "looking to meet", I'm sorry buy they are just looking to get their end away there and then and I highly doubt they will ever come back again ?.

I've only ever messaged 3 people on this site. One i have banter with, he will know who I'm on about. One because they liked and commented on a photo and the other to apologise as they made a comment about me being rude. I do not message new member straight away. I welcome them and like their posting if I find them funny or interesting.

 

[Deleted member 11852]

When I joined this site I had no expectations. I wasn't thinking there would be instant meets or anything else. It was the regular few on here that made me give it a try and stay.

Look how many have joined since you have been on here.. The amount that register but actually post nothing and only spend a couple of minutes on the site.. All you can do is welcome them then let them decide for themselves.. I know from the messages we get there are people from other sites who join and expect meets with these 1 line messages they send.. You will always get that with this lifestyle and the virus is making it worse.. I'm sure it will get better in time.. W.. ??

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Look how many have joined since you have been on here.. The amount that register but actually post nothing and only spend a couple of minutes on the site.. All you can do is welcome them then let them decide for themselves.. I know from the messages we get there are people from other sites who join and expect meets with these 1 line messages they send.. You will always get that with this lifestyle and the virus is making it worse.. I'm sure it will get better in time.. W.. ??

This is a position we‘re all in too atm; the virus has changed ALL of our lives... let alone this as a lifestyle choice. That said, the juxtaposition of that is more are WFH, more are online, so you’d think that would create a swell too. Pun perhaps intended. ?

 

[Deleted member 11852]

I do find the site really active as regards to the threads and the banter.. Having said that we're both on at funny times with the working hours we both do.. We try and be as active as we can on here.. W.. ??

 

[Skippy01]

Please dont encourage her ?????????

Too late MrG.I fully intend to embrace my knobbiness now ? ?

 

[Deleted member 11852]

Too late MrG.I fully intend to embrace my knobbiness now ? ?

You go for it.. W.. XX

 

[Guru G]

Too late MrG.I fully intend to embrace my knobbiness now ? ?

Ffs everyone watch out ??

 

[Guru G]

I've only ever messaged 3 people on this site. One i have banter with, he will know who I'm on about. One because they liked and commented on a photo and the other to apologise as they made a comment about me being rude. I do not message new member straight away. I welcome them and like their posting if I find them funny or interesting.

That's the way to do it let them come to you kevlar ?

 

[Deleted member 19022]

That's the way to do it let them come to you kevlar ?

Not a case of waiting for anyone, just being polite and letting people find their feet. If I waited I would end up with callouses on my palms ???

 

[Pearls]

Me being brand new to this site aswell as using a different site before, this is my take on it.

The welcome I had on this site I liked because I had fit women/couples saying hello to me, also all the lads on here being friendly what's not to love ?. I think that when people join not everyone likes people messaging them straight away, I liked it but maybe some don't .

Messaging wise and actually looking to meet up I haven't even looked into and doubt I will because my attitude is if something will happen it will happen so I can't really comment on that - I don't even know how to search for people nearby ?.

The forums are not that lively but I find them enough to keep me interested throughout the day and I haven't met one asshole on here yet (bar skippy JOKES ).I joined in straight away because that's why I'm here but there is probably alot of lurkers who aren't comfortable getting involved yet or maybe at all. I dont think the amount of interaction on the site is an issue for me at all it's perfect for me.

Lastly on some of the new joiners, I looked the other day and theres some people joining at like 4 in the morning and first post saying "looking to meet", I'm sorry buy they are just looking to get their end away there and then and I highly doubt they will ever come back again ?.

What are you doing hanging around here at 4 in the morning? Hmmmm

 

[justjack128]

We all have reasons for joining. For me it’s the interest in the swinging scene, and since joining, finding that it’s a group of like minded people that’s you can communicate, and enjoy Chatting with if that’s your interest.

 

[Guru G]

What are you doing hanging around here at 4 in the morning? Hmmmm

Obviously waiting for one of these randomers who are looking for a quicky so I can meet them was it not obvious

 

[Pearls]

Obviously waiting for one of these randomers who are looking for a quicky so I can meet them was it not obvious

Ah well then. That’s allowed

 

[Guru G]

Ah well then. That’s allowed

Is there a curfew on here . Unfortunately its actually my sleeping pattern is fucked now because I'm living the furlough life ??

 

[Colin]

Too late MrG.I fully intend to embrace my knobbiness now ? ?

You can embrace my knobbiness anytime lol

 

[Skippy01]

You can embrace my knobbiness anytime lol

?? that actually made me laugh.I appreciate the offer ? xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

You can use emojis from your phones keyboard which will translate but also this too. The little smiley face in the image below, will bring them all up for you. ?

scroll down for the GIFs etc x
View attachment 74635

Good evening @Mr gorgeous1 see above my friend. ☝? ?

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Good evening @Mr gorgeous1 see above my friend. ☝? ?

Ps clicking the orange arrow, right hand corner in my quote - will take you to the post where you can see the screenshot. ??

 

[Skippy01]

Ps clicking the orange arrow, right hand corner in my quote - will take you to the post where you can see the screenshot. ??

Oh thats smart!! That orange arrow thing x

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Oh thats smart!! That orange arrow thing x

Yes a quick way to easily flick back to someone’s original post in a thread if quoted. X

 

[MP386]

Too late MrG.I fully intend to embrace my knobbiness now ? ?

You should fit in perfectly..... there’s lots of knobbiness around here

 

[MP386]

I’ve probably said this before when I originally joined I had no idea if I would be accepted or even liked by anyone enough to want to chat or more with me so I sat back and I’ve said it before this can be very frustrating as a single bloke , you do get ignored by some ,but not by others ...
I used to sit back an wait but I’ve been told by many you have to be forward in this lifestyle, to coin the phrase “get in there !” , because the majority won’t message you first especially as a single bloke we all know what the meat market is like for rude people and fakes it can be sole destroying, this place is so different on that score ...
so the whole issue is if you sit back and don’t message newbies will you be potentially missing out .... most come and go some are here for a fee minutes is that because they have had lots of messages or do they see the fact that I’ve not been inundated no one can use this site ?
It’s a dilemma I know when is if best to message , do you message, how soon do you message .... does the site need a cooling period of day where newbies don’t receive any messages so they have time to acclimatise, will that just drive them away ...
Not sure what the answer to any of it is but do we continue as we do and the genuine ones who want to be here stay and the others just leave as per ...
From my point of view do I go back to sitting back hoping someone will contact me ? 99.9% of the time doesn’t happen.... is there an actual answer to this ? ....

 

[MP386]

I’ve probably said this before when I originally joined I had no idea if I would be accepted or even liked by anyone enough to want to chat or more with me so I sat back and I’ve said it before this can be very frustrating as a single bloke , you do get ignored by some ,but not by others ...
I used to sit back an wait but I’ve been told by many you have to be forward in this lifestyle, to coin the phrase “get in there !” , because the majority won’t message you first especially as a single bloke we all know what the meat market is like for rude people and fakes it can be sole destroying, this place is so different on that score ...
so the whole issue is if you sit back and don’t message newbies will you be potentially missing out .... most come and go some are here for a fee minutes is that because they have had lots of messages or do they see the fact that I’ve not been inundated no one can use this site ?
It’s a dilemma I know when is if best to message , do you message, how soon do you message .... does the site need a cooling period of day where newbies don’t receive any messages so they have time to acclimatise, will that just drive them away ...
Not sure what the answer to any of it is but do we continue as we do and the genuine ones who want to be here stay and the others just leave as per ...
From my point of view do I go back to sitting back hoping someone will contact me ? 99.9% of the time doesn’t happen.... is there an actual answer to this ? ....

I know I’m guilty of messaging or profile posting quickly but of those messages of the last 20 messages I’ve sent I’ve received 9 replies some of those from established members who always message and reply , we all know that this lifestyle can bring the worse out in people thats mainly because I guess we are all chasing similar , everyone to a degree in this lifestyle is selfish we are here for our own ends, be that not replying to polite hellos , ignoring messages and blocking those who they see as competition...

 

[Deleted member 19022]

I’ve probably said this before when I originally joined I had no idea if I would be accepted or even liked by anyone enough to want to chat or more with me so I sat back and I’ve said it before this can be very frustrating as a single bloke , you do get ignored by some ,but not by others ...
I used to sit back an wait but I’ve been told by many you have to be forward in this lifestyle, to coin the phrase “get in there !” , because the majority won’t message you first especially as a single bloke we all know what the meat market is like for rude people and fakes it can be sole destroying, this place is so different on that score ...
so the whole issue is if you sit back and don’t message newbies will you be potentially missing out .... most come and go some are here for a fee minutes is that because they have had lots of messages or do they see the fact that I’ve not been inundated no one can use this site ?
It’s a dilemma I know when is if best to message , do you message, how soon do you message .... does the site need a cooling period of day where newbies don’t receive any messages so they have time to acclimatise, will that just drive them away ...
Not sure what the answer to any of it is but do we continue as we do and the genuine ones who want to be here stay and the others just leave as per ...
From my point of view do I go back to sitting back hoping someone will contact me ? 99.9% of the time doesn’t happen.... is there an actual answer to this ? ....

Whats there not to like about you ??