~sexuality~

[MP386]

Call me a Neanderthal if you like but “straight” since starting this you obviously come across different people....most I have met the Male part of a couple has to my knowledge always been straight so no difficult situation have occurred ... it’s not even come up in conversation ...
I think it’s accepted more if a lady is Bi ???
I’ve been in situations with other blokes involved and thought he’s impressive that doesn’t mean I want to get up close and personal to the “tallywacker”
It’s no secret I struggle with clubs , I’ve been naked never had any problems with blokes .... not many women show interest come to that but when it was announced that the next social will be a Gay club .. that I’m sorry if you don’t approve is a step too far for me so I wouldn’t entertain that at all ... everyone to there own if it’s your thing that’s fine it’s just not me ...

Ok I wasn’t going to say anymore on the subject but it’s been eating away at my tiny mind ....
If a similar post had been made by a “straight single female “ would she have received the same reaction or lots of love and hugs ??

 

[fincon]

I see beyond sex/gender. I see the person and the soul. I simply see people for people regardless of gender. But looks also plays a big part in it too.

I both ‘get’ and ‘don’t get’ this.

Sure, I see the person as well… whether I like someone has nothing to do with their biological or otherwise decided gender. Whether I enjoy spending time in their company is to do with who they are, whether they’re fun, whether they intellectually stimulate me.

Whether I ‘like’ like them, ie find them sexually attractive, though? Well, I don’t find fellas sexually attractive, any of them, but I do find some women attractive.

 

[GeoffRy]

Ok I wasn’t going to say anymore on the subject but it’s been eating away at my tiny mind ....
If a similar post had been made by a “straight single female “ would she have received the same reaction or lots of love and hugs ??

Just reading all this, @MP386 , from my understanding the questioning/rebuttal was to the statement that visiting a gay club for the social was a step too far in your mind. I understand that but can also understand that people could feel insulted by that , taking it to mean uuuurgh gay people I dont want to socialise with them. I also understand that is not what you mean.

P.S. We have had many excellent nights in gay clubs, I generally get hit on by all the blokes (being as much as a hunk as I am) but the leave you alone once you tell them you arent a dirty stinking gayer. LOL.

Xx G

 

[Pearls]

Ok I wasn’t going to say anymore on the subject but it’s been eating away at my tiny mind ....
If a similar post had been made by a “straight single female “ would she have received the same reaction or lots of love and hugs ??

They would be showed love. I’ve seen it.

 

[MP386]

Just reading all this, @MP386 , from my understanding the questioning/rebuttal was to the statement that visiting a gay club for the social was a step too far in your mind. I understand that but can also understand that people could feel insulted by that , taking it to mean uuuurgh gay people I dont want to socialise with them. I also understand that is not what you mean.

P.S. We have had many excellent nights in gay clubs, I generally get hit on by all the blokes (being as much as a hunk as I am) but the leave you alone once you tell them you arent a dirty stinking gayer. LOL.

Xx G

It wasn’t meant to insult anyone, and I have been told by other people that gay clubs are the best night out ... having said that there are places I will happily spend hours that I find amazing but to others are just not there thing ...

 

[GeoffRy]

It wasn’t meant to insult anyone, and I have been told by other people that gay clubs are the best night out ... having said that there are places I will happily spend hours that I find amazing but to others are just not there thing ...

Yep I got it wasnt meant to insult, just trying to clarify things so we all get on. And yep I have those things to do that bore others too. Sometimes people can be over sensitive and take "no thanks not my thing but if its yours then fine" as a "thats rubbish and i wouldnt lower myself to that"

 

[Lips_Pearls]

I both ‘get’ and ‘don’t get’ this.

Sure, I see the person as well… whether I like someone has nothing to do with their biological or otherwise decided gender. Whether I enjoy spending time in their company is to do with who they are, whether they’re fun, whether they intellectually stimulate me.

Whether I ‘like’ like them, ie find them sexually attractive, though? Well, I don’t find fellas sexually attractive, any of them, but I do find some women attractive.

My first initial attraction would be based on looks. But as far as sexuality is concerned in this context I mean in as in I don’t strictly see gender as a barrier for me to find someone attractive. If that makes sense.

 

[Pearls]

Ok I wasn’t going to say anymore on the subject but it’s been eating away at my tiny mind ....
If a similar post had been made by a “straight single female “ would she have received the same reaction or lots of love and hugs ??

It’s been proved also in this thread. Check the ratings on Sf posts to couples and gents. Sorry but just noticed. Selective for sure.

 

[Stew]

I would definitely sign up for that Deliveroo option!

Not sure they could fit my starter, main course and dessert all on one bike though

That’s just greedy !

 

[GeoffRy]

JOKING ALERT

I am a bit shocked and slightly saddened that after four pages no one has commented on my original post on page 1 stating that I identify as a Bonobo, so now believe I need to explain Bonoboes to anyone who doesnt know.

The Bonobo is a close relative of the chimpanzee, slightly smaller but much less aggressive. Their entire social interactions in the troop are carried out through sex. Male returns from picking fruit, fucks the first bonobo he meets as a way of say Hi, female eats the last piece of fruit? fucks whoever sees her e.t.c. . The only rule is that the females will not have sex with their own male offspring.

Sounds like paradise to me.

Xx G

 

[MP386]

JOKING ALERT

I am a bit shocked and slightly saddened that after four pages no one has commented on my original post on page 1 stating that I identify as a Bonobo, so now believe I need to explain Bonoboes to anyone who doesnt know.

The Bonobo is a close relative of the chimpanzee, slightly smaller but much less aggressive. Their entire social interactions in the troop are carried out through sex. Male returns from picking fruit, fucks the first bonobo he meets as a way of say Hi, female eats the last piece of fruit? fucks whoever sees her e.t.c. . The only rule is that the females will not have sex with their own male offspring.

Sounds like paradise to me.

Xx G

I just thought it was some sort of cult to do with U2’s lead singer ....

 

[Ahabs]

JOKING ALERT
The Bonobo is a close relative of the chimpanzee, slightly smaller but much less aggressive. Their entire social interactions in the troop are carried out through sex. Male returns from picking fruit, fucks the first bonobo he meets as a way of say Hi, female eats the last piece of fruit? fucks whoever sees her e.t.c. . The only rule is that the females will not have sex with their own male offspring.
Xx G

"Well, you can certainly keep that sort of behaviour to yourself thank you very much! I refuse to associate with the sort!!"

Lol, and unless anyone missed that, I'm joking also

 

[Stew]

JOKING ALERT

I am a bit shocked and slightly saddened that after four pages no one has commented on my original post on page 1 stating that I identify as a Bonobo, so now believe I need to explain Bonoboes to anyone who doesnt know.

The Bonobo is a close relative of the chimpanzee, slightly smaller but much less aggressive. Their entire social interactions in the troop are carried out through sex. Male returns from picking fruit, fucks the first bonobo he meets as a way of say Hi, female eats the last piece of fruit? fucks whoever sees her e.t.c. . The only rule is that the females will not have sex with their own male offspring.

Sounds like paradise to me.

Xx G

Stop monkeying around or everyone will be aping you !!

 

[fincon]

My first initial attraction would be based on looks.

Yep; I get that. I’ve said for ages that it’s looks that gets you interested in someone… and everything other than looks that keeps you interested in them.

(I’ve never heard of anyone, seeing someone walk into a crowded room, going weak at the knees at their erudition and philosophical musings… their looks, on the other hand…?)

Small caveat: I’ve found people enticing, interesting, online, without knowing what they look like. I’ve never found anyone sexually attractive without at least something physical upon which to hang that attraction, and only then, when it’s a woman.

But as far as sexuality is concerned in this context I mean in as in I don’t strictly see gender as a barrier for me to find someone attractive. If that makes sense.

I can acknowledge - often do - that someone’s objectively good looking, that I can understand why women, and some men, find a specific fella sexually attractive, say. While at no point finding them sexually attractive myself.

 

[Leonidas480]

Sexually, I am attracted to ladies, but I can recognise and acknowledge attractive qualities in gents (i.e. how / why others may find them attractive).

Socially, it is very much about personality.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Yep; I get that. I’ve said for ages that it’s looks that gets you interested in someone… and everything other than looks that keeps you interested in them.

Absolutely. This pretty much sums a lot of it up.

 

[Deleted member 11094]

This is a fascinating subject!

Right this minute I would ‘label’ myself as bisexual with a greater desire towards women, which absolutely needs exploring with the right people.

Coming at this from my very new to the scene, inexperienced, somewhat child in a sweetshop perspective, I am realising that being clearer about what I want now and in the near future will hopefully avoid misunderstandings and scenarios that are less than desirable.

I would like new experiences and to not hold allegiances with particular people or be monopolised so early on in my new adventure. I would like the freedom to explore and get to know what my boundaries are without being thrown in at the deep end and expected to cope.

I totally respect other people’s sexuality and whatever label they do or don’t chose. We learn, grow and change constantly as people so why shouldn’t our sexuality change with us!

Xx

Very well said. The exploring of this desire should be a fun experience & I hope there are so many doors that will open for you now that you have taken the first few steps.

It is important to be open and honest. Sometimes this means being clear about what you are looking for, as people need to respect people's wishes and desires, they should respect your wishes and what you are looking for. Example being, if you are exploring your desire for women, that is what you want. So it is important for people to respect this and not swamp you early on in your journey, I hope all is okay and that people are respecting your journey.

Your posts and things are very clear, open, and honest, so that is a great way for people to see what you are about and what you're here for
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