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JEA4life

JEA4life

21 January 2018
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Nigel&Julie said:
There are members on this site that have been here a year + with no verifications, why did you join? Some of Hume have even replied to this thread :confused:. N
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Accoring to that logic we should leave the site..We also appreciate your Telling us Exactly what we were thinking in joining. Thx since I am Rately able to construct my own reasons or thought process..
 
Nigel&Julie

Nigel&Julie

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JEA4life said:
Accoring to that logic we should leave the site..We also appreciate your Telling us Exactly what we were thinking in joining. Thx since I am Rately able to construct my own reasons or thought process..
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Er you've only been here a few weeks, was not aimed at you. N
 
JEA4life

JEA4life

21 January 2018
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Nigel&Julie said:
Er you've only been here a few weeks, was not aimed at you. N
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Why wait? We're in the States, have little chance of another verifying us in person barring a $10,000 trip for a shag. Surely there couldn't be Any other reasoning a person might have that Differed from your own opinion.
 
Charlia

Charlia

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Guys guys guys... It's getting rather war like in here.

The lovely @Pearls was simply reminding people that the primary purpose of this site is to make friends and swing. Swinging isn't dating; if whilst swinging you make a connection that evolves into a relationship then good on you.

Swinging is a no strings, no emotional attachment thing; its a temporary connection that at the end of the day/night/whatever you go your own way. Sure repeat meets happen, but they don't necessarily mean it's a relationship.

I did date a swinging couple. But not through a site. I met them at a club and our attachment grew before we had sex. These things happen and are perfectly natural. No-one is denying that.

However... This site is primarily a swinging site NOT a dating site. If dating happens it's nothing to do with the site, and just to do with the peeps involved.


There's my two cents lol
 
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2ofus

2ofus

17 December 2015
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I didnt me an to offend anyone wirh what i said about distance. it wasnt a dig at anyone. my post was just to reassure @Nigel&Julie that the problem wasnt either them or how far they are from anyone. that why I used ourselves as example, because we one of the furthest couples from anywhere. of course cost, health, work and time are all issues, if they wasnt then we would be at the birthday meet. but when those things are issues, then even meeting in the next town is a problem. we had meets cancelled because of all those issues. what I tryd to say was distance on it own isnt a problem. sorry to anyone I upset, it wasnt meant to upset anyone at all, just the oppasite L xx
 
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Vanezza

Vanezza

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2ofus said:
I didnt me an to offend anyone wirh what i said about distance. it wasnt a dig at anyone. my post was just to reassure @Nigel&Julie that the problem wasnt either them or how far they are from anyone. that why I used ourselves as example, because we one of the furthest couples from anywhere. of course cost, health, work and time are all issues, if they wasnt then we would be at the birthday meet. but when those things are issues, then even meeting in the next town is a problem. we had meets cancelled because of all those issues. what I tryd to say was distance on it own isnt a problem. sorry to anyone I upset, it wasnt meant to upset anyone at all, just the oppasite L xx
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Just to say we wasn't offended in the slightest everyone has the right to have an opinion :love:

Vxxx
 
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Charlia

Charlia

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LadyLily said:
Very interesting points made here.

I would ask, then, where do people who need to form connections with people before committing to sex fall on this spectrum?
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This one if the reasons I don't really swing, because I develope attachment. However, my way around it is a good friendship. That way I can be attached enough that I can sleep with someone, and have feels for them, but it doesn't become a romantic set of feelings. If that makes sense
 
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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

19 March 2015
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Charlia said:
However, my way around it is a good friendship. That way I can be attached enough that I can sleep with someone, and have feels for them, but it doesn't become a romantic set of feelings. If that makes sense
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That's how @Pearls and I see things. We love the friendships that come with it all and the fun. The feelings of attachments etc don't necessarily play a part.
We care about people we're involved with, 100% we do... we worry and show affection also, but don't have that emo thing going on either. x
 
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Lips_Pearls

Lips_Pearls

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LadyLily said:
Very interesting points made here.

I would ask, then, where do people who need to form connections with people before committing to sex fall on this spectrum?
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No difference.. we're the same, we're in that spectrum as we have to have a connection. But it's not dating.... it's part of the whole swinging lifestyle itself for us. :) x
 
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Antogs

Antogs

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My opinion:
Dating is dating, swinging is swinging. Two very different things. To me, it's a question of attitude, or state of mind if you will.
Swinging has its own ethos, its own etiquette, its own moral compass.

As a single guy, I am acutely aware that should I have a sexual experience with a couple it is imperative that I respect their relationship and under no circumstances become romantically/emotionally involved solely with the female part of the triangle. It's perhaps been overlooked that a single guy joining this site with dating in mind may be far more susceptible to failure in this respect simply because he enters the situation with the wrong mindset.

Therefore I totally agree with @Pearls and @Admin that this site must remain strictly for swingers and not those looking for "dates" to maintain its integrity for those of us that appreciate the joy of NSA, unadulterated sex with as many different people as we can :spankin::blowjob::smoking:
 
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JEA4life

JEA4life

21 January 2018
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Antogs said:
My opinion:
Dating is dating, swinging is swinging. Two very different things. To me, it's a question of attitude, or state of mind if you will.
Swinging has its own ethos, its own etiquette, its own moral compass.

As a single guy, I am acutely aware that should I have a sexual experience with a couple it is imperative that I respect their relationship and under no circumstances become romantically/emotionally involved solely with the female part of the triangle. It's perhaps been overlooked that a single guy joining this site with dating in mind may be far more susceptible to failure in this respect simply because he enters the situation with the wrong mindset.

Therefore I totally agree with @Pearls and @Admin that this site must remain strictly for swingers and not those looking for "dates" to maintain its integrity for those of us that appreciate the joy of NSA, unadulterated sex with as many different people as we can :spankin::blowjob::smoking:
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Well put..Yea, What he said:sneaky:
 
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