It's all about your mind's eye. Explore the unknown, explore different avenues, explore things you think you could not.
Don't talk about it, try it as suggestive ways. Say to your partner that tonight we will try something different and rather than serve strawberries & cream for dessert, serve strawberries & cream blindfolded and feed her/him that but with maybe a chilli in the mix to awaken their sensory differences.

:devil:
This method applies though between say hitty, throbby and stingy things.
Try all, try everything,
at least once.
But
know your limits.
The BDSM ladder is full of steps. Don't be afraid to try them - even if they fail. x