Gawd reminds me of the hot lube we had, not recommended just after you have shaved you balls and @Miss-Sexy-Legs apparently can read, it said sparingly, not slap the bloody stuff on like you're greasing a turkey
you're greasing a turkey
Gawd reminds me of the hot lube we had, not recommended just after you have shaved you balls and @Miss-Sexy-Legs apparently can read, it said sparingly, not slap the bloody stuff on like you're greasing a turkey
Brought a whole new meaning to singing in the showerGawd reminds me of the hot lube we had, not recommended just after you have shaved you balls and @Miss-Sexy-Legs apparently can read, it said sparingly, not slap the bloody stuff on like you're greasing a turkey
Brought a whole new meaning to singing in the shower
Totally agreed. You have to push boundaries. After all, how do you know what boundaries you want in place if you've never experienced anything? But has to be done correctly too.In BDSM the same is true, yes to explore is good but minimise the risk by putting in place a safety net. Whether that is a safeword with someone you trust or having others nearby, maybe in a club or as say a small group it doesn't matter but exploration does.
Just reread this as well… and yep my previous points pretty much are still my own position now.Just reading through this again. So exploration is only good if it's safe? If that were the case then we as a race would never have moved forward. Exploration by definition is a risk and that risk is also the reason why people explore, to find that elusive gold, to test your skills, to prove to yourself that you can achieve, all these involve some element of risk. In BDSM the same is true, yes to explore is good but minimise the risk by putting in place a safety net. Whether that is a safeword with someone you trust or having others nearby, maybe in a club or as say a small group it doesn't matter but exploration does.
Sorry, but ‘don’t knock it until you’ve tried it’ has never impressed me as an argument. I’ve never tried nude bungee jumping, nor auto-erotic asphyxiation. Neither do I want to.
To play devil's advocate;
How do you know, until you do?Or don't..
The same way I’m pretty certain I don’t want anyone shitting on me as part of sex.
Totally agreed. You have to push boundaries. After all, how do you know what boundaries you want in place if you've never experienced anything? But has to be done correctly too.
You use a parachute? Pah! That’s just sticking artificial limits on it… how do you know you wouldn’t be fine without a parachute? Why not take the risk?you don't jump out of a plane unless you have a parachute, however how can you ever find your limits without exploration.
And everyone gets to choose their own level of ‘risk’ without anyone else criticising or putting down their decision. Stagnating? Really? Because someone might disagree with your personal advocacy?
I am rereading this and it's so true (if I may say so myself) - try everything once. If you don't like it, don't do it again. But if you do, try it again just to make sure.It's all about your mind's eye. Explore the unknown, explore different avenues, explore things you think you could not.
Don't talk about it, try it as suggestive ways. Say to your partner that tonight we will try something different and rather than serve strawberries & cream for dessert, serve strawberries & cream blindfolded and feed her/him that but with maybe a chilli in the mix to awaken their sensory differences.:devil:
This method applies though between say hitty, throbby and stingy things.
Try all, try everything, at least once.
But know your limits.
The BDSM ladder is full of steps. Don't be afraid to try them - even if they fail. x
TartI am rereading this and it's so true (if I may say so myself) - try everything once. If you don't like it, don't do it again. But if you do, try it again just to make sure.x
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