The latest account deletion request says it all;
"Please delete my account as I have found someone"
Swinging, not dating!
"Please delete my account as I have found someone"
Swinging, not dating!
I have messaged some of here said hello and introduced myself and have had no reply at all..Ermmmm at the risk of setting this thread on fire again and having read how its not happening for some folks. Just how many of you have messaged someone from the site that you have never met before about meeting up.
Well done stumpy for trying 10/10 for effortI have messaged some of here said hello and introduced myself and have had no reply at all..
Id be happy with that lol xThing is we speak to many people when they first join, all staff do and it's mostly questions about how swinging works. These new members when they initially join have no clue what to expect and so it's our job to educate and advice the best we can, I know @Miss-Sexy-Legs will agree on this as we spend so much time in PMs with new members.
So as @Lulu mentioned we spoke and again I offered my help regarding what swinging is, this is when we got talking about dating and if there was much difference in it. After a very long chat I think we finally got there.
We have had men here that have wanted relationships after meeting, one lady even sent a report because this person couldn't understand why she didn't want a relationship (he ended up being banned for many other reasons also. He got very stalkerish.
So this is why we try to educate as much as we can and make threads that are educational, we have a new generation now of swingers, young people who have no idea what it's all about and are confused between swinging and dating. If we can help with keeping swinging swinging then our job is complete.
:hmm: neverErmmmm at the risk of setting this thread on fire again and having read how its not happening for some folks. Just how many of you have messaged someone from the site that you have never met before about meeting up.
Yep same hereI find it inconceivable that people don't reply to messages. But then again I'm not being bombarded with the sort of rude and/or offensive messages that some seem to be (truth be told I'm not bombarded with messages full stop)
I reply to all messages received as soon as I see them and always will.
The latest account deletion request says it all;
"Please delete my account as I have found someone"
Swinging, not dating!
In this case yes 100% - the account had mentioned being on the rebound and looking for a partner.Does it really?
I didn’t join to date, but nothing stays the same forever situations change.
I agree though to the whole swinging not dating ethos.
I’ve certainly noticed a change over the years I’ve been around the scene. Back in the days when I was actively involved - attending clubs, meeting - there were plenty of couples who’d met while swinging, and some who were quite open to meeting someone for a long term thing in the scene…I wonder how many people, still, genuinely understand this lifestyle over those who don't?
I.E - people who see swinging as a gateway into getting a relationship or seeing it as dating not swinging..
There's a definite increase of people using swinging as a means to date. Rather than the opposite.
Is the clock ticking on swinging itself online, as a way to finding genuine, friendly, honest & open like-minded people?
Agreed, it's an odd situation. Almost like we're in some plateau. A stagnant phase perhaps.I’ve certainly noticed a change over the years I’ve been around the scene. Back in the days when I was actively involved - attending clubs, meeting - there were plenty of couples who’d met while swinging, and some who were quite open to meeting someone for a long term thing in the scene…
...but almost no one who was part of the scene hoping to meet someone for that, no one in the scene actively looking for a partner. I haven’t been able to say that for a couple of years; have seen far more of those. Which always puzzles me, and it shouldn’t. It’s no odder than a couple who meet while not swinging and who then get into it. Things change, people change, and with one exception¹, I’m certainly not going to criticise anyone’s motives for being in the scene. It just puzzles me.
¹the one exception being fellas, both single and as part of a couple, who come into the scene solely because they reckon it’s sex on tap and every woman in the scene will fuck anyone.
Modern apps do not help as they have normalised swing/dating and NSA sex.
Maybe that's what it is my friend...
Maybe that's what it is my friend...
I tend to concur and see some things that maybe are the edge of what it is. Admittance is the final step before progression after all, isn't it. When you admit and realise, you can address and move forward.I suspect that’s exactly it.
Yeah I think it has and it's been normalised. The mystery has gone. A magician is now no longer a magician but an illusionist...I certainly remember being surprised three or four years ago when I heard a popular dating (not swinging) app referred to as a ‘shagging app’, so yeah, that blurring has been going on for a while.
Spot on.I tend to concur and see some things that maybe are the edge of what it is. Admittance is the final step before progression after all, isn't it. When you admit and realise, you can address and move forward.
Yeah I think it has and it's been normalised. The mystery has gone. A magician is now no longer a magician but an illusionist...
The clock is ticking I think. I genuinely do. Cultures change. People change. Society changes. In 5 years, look at how we have changed.
How many clubs have admitted it and shut up shop? Too many. Like pubs...
There's a change in direction. Has been for a little while.
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