Biggest Misconceptions About Swinging..

[BoltonBiFemCpl]

We get to hear a lot of mis conceptions as a guy in a social group we are part of claims to have been a part of the swinging lifestyle. Must say he comes out with all sorts of crap. He says sites like this have masses of women just gasping to meet and that you can do whatever you like to the women. Must admit it makes us really mad to hear him spouting off but we cant say anything without outting ourselves

 

[Lovernotfighter]

We get to hear a lot of mis conceptions as a guy in a social group we are part of claims to have been a part of the swinging lifestyle. Must say he comes out with all sorts of crap. He says sites like this have masses of women just gasping to meet and that you can do whatever you like to the women. Must admit it makes us really mad to hear him spouting off but we cant say anything without outting ourselves

Dammit he needs his shins kicking

 

[Pearls]

You can spot a swinger a mile away... Do we look different?

 

[Lovernotfighter]

You can spot a swinger a mile away... Do we look different?

Well yeah we look different because we are always in the garden centre buying Pampas grass.
Seriously though do any of us actually have a Pampas grass?

 

[Pearls]

Well yeah we look different because we are always in the garden centre buying Pampas grass.
Seriously though do any of us actually have a Pampas grass?

Well now you mention it

 

[Lovernotfighter]

Well now you mention it

The Pampas grass thing must be the biggest misconception about swinger, firstly clubs and websites mean we don't need a super secret 'bat-signal' and secondly it would suggest we would be happy for random strangers to knock on our doors asking to fuck, if someone did that to me they'd likely get a kick.

 

[Fantasy_Man_2018]

A misconception i experienced many moons ago was that a polite response from a couple was almost taken as an invite/opportunity

No intention of tarring everyone with the same brush but i have experienced it

Keep up the great site, loving it

 

[Therapon]

That if you meet swingers or if you are on a swingers site then you will get sex. Sorry it doesn't work that way.

 

[Louise1970]

That if you meet swingers or if you are on a swingers site then you will get sex. Sorry it doesn't work that way.

I have to agree with you here it not just what how were and who or how many hooks you can have it the social aspect of the swinging scene too if it's sex you are after or getting your own sexual gratification ss isn't the place to do it x

 

[Pearls]

That if you meet swingers or if you are on a swingers site then you will get sex. Sorry it doesn't work that way.

I was about to write exactly the same thing. Not. Can I give you one.

 

[Therapon]

I was about to write exactly the same thing. Not. Can I give you one.

Excuse my caution but one what

 

[Pearls]

Excuse my caution but one what

 

[Therapon]

Uhmmmmmm in that case possibly but I retain the right to refuse any offers if said offer will mean losing any body parts, force feeding or anything else that may result in any damages to myself, property or my wallet.

 

[Pearls]

Uhmmmmmm in that case possibly but I retain the right to refuse any offers if said offer will mean losing any body parts, force feeding or anything else that may result in any damages to myself, property or my wallet.

Wallet? I'll look after it for you

 

[emyr]

Uhmmmmmm in that case possibly but I retain the right to refuse any offers if said offer will mean losing any body parts, force feeding or anything else that may result in any damages to myself, property or my wallet.

Best thing to do is just give in as they will soon force ur wallet open cobwebs mothballs and all

 

[Lips_Pearls]

Swingers will always go with other swingers - regardless, as that's what we do.

 

[Deleted member 8626]

This is a very poignant topic for me at the moment I didn't really have any expectations of what to expect from this site or hadn't thought about how to go about interacting, being a neebie. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't heard what people had been saying about swinging, I've lived a very alternative lifestyle but never really come across anybody that has been involved in the lifestyle. I mentioned to an good friend that I'd joined a site to broaden my horizons and meet like minded people but at the moment was just happy exploring the site and chatting till I found out more about the lifestyle and myself for that matter. He replied that it was probably just full of unhappy people stuck in sex less marriages or morally wrong people cheating on their partners. I think that just goes to prove that there are those misconceptions. I replied that I have found it to be the complete opposite to that. The people I have found on here are probably the happiest and morally correct members of society I've met. They are open to communicate their feelings and happy to share them with complete strangers. The friendships that I have witnessed here go far beyond anything I have seen in my life. The banter is spot on and I've not seen any bullying any disrespectful or hurtful remarks towards anyone. I feel that I have been welcomed into a family so to speak and at some point in the near future I will probably get around to meeting some of you. So all in all if I had, had those misconceptions he has, I am pleased to say that they have changed.
Big thank you to everyone.

 

[Lips_Pearls]

This is a very poignant topic for me at the moment I didn't really have any expectations of what to expect from this site or hadn't thought about how to go about interacting, being a neebie. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't heard what people had been saying about swinging, I've lived a very alternative lifestyle but never really come across anybody that has been involved in the lifestyle. I mentioned to an good friend that I'd joined a site to broaden my horizons and meet like minded people but at the moment was just happy exploring the site and chatting till I found out more about the lifestyle and myself for that matter. He replied that it was probably just full of unhappy people stuck in sex less marriages or morally wrong people cheating on their partners. I think that just goes to prove that there are those misconceptions. I replied that I have found it to be the complete opposite to that. The people I have found on here are probably the happiest and morally correct members of society I've met. They are open to communicate their feelings and happy to share them with complete strangers. The friendships that I have witnessed here go far beyond anything I have seen in my life. The banter is spot on and I've not seen any bullying any disrespectful or hurtful remarks towards anyone. I feel that I have been welcomed into a family so to speak and at some point in the near future I will probably get around to meeting some of you. So all in all if I had, had those misconceptions he has, I am pleased to say that they have changed.
Big thank you to everyone.

What a fantastic post and statement to make...
That's the second time this week, it's been mentioned that it's like being welcomed into a big family. We love the fact that everyone is so respectful to one another. It's really just how it's meant to be. Really is..

 

[Deleted member 8626]

What a fantastic post and statement to make...
That's the second time this week, it's been mentioned that it's like being welcomed into a big family. We love the fact that everyone is so respectful to one another. It's really just how it's meant to be. Really is..

You should all be very proud that it is.

 

[GeoffRy]

I find it hard to explain to people (as I have over the years) that we are a faithful couple who are still (and always) deeply in love, but that G knew from the beginning that I desire women and that is who I am. He was so accepting of this (Phew!) and we have had several experiences involving an additional playmate in our playtime. I never considered that we could be involved in the lifestyle, mainly due to the seedy image portrayed by the media and on TV, but since finding this site I believe we have found a group of people who accept our view. Right now, we are fit and healthy, and deeply in love, and want to have fun whilst we are still desirable, and enjoy what we have whilst we have it!

 

[Pearls]

I find it hard to explain to people (as I have over the years) that we are a faithful couple who are still (and always) deeply in love, but that G knew from the beginning that I desire women and that is who I am. He was so accepting of this (Phew!) and we have had several experiences involving an additional playmate in our playtime. I never considered that we could be involved in the lifestyle, mainly due to the seedy image portrayed by the media and on TV, but since finding this site I believe we have found a group of people who accept our view. Right now, we are fit and healthy, and deeply in love, and want to have fun whilst we are still desirable, and enjoy what we have whilst we have it!

Yes swingers do get bad press because of other sites and certain socials believe it or not, Wales especially, we are percieved at being the disease capital of the country for some stupid reason, mainly certain areas near Bristol

 

[Stesnaughtyangel]

We’ Been on the seance together for 3years now and have only attended clubs. For us we got put off using online due to time wasters so it is very refreshing to see everyone in here being so open and genuine.
For me the biggest peeve is that ok yeah I’m BI and that means it’s an automatic pass. In previous relationship I was prevented from being myself however my hubby and me are of like mindedness which is wonderful. Attending clubs is great but we rarely tell anyone about it and for those trusted few well- it isn’t well received which is ashame.
Wanting to meet people who have the same interests as us is hard when your interest is seen as something taboo or even wrong.
Well I’m just glad I joined here as this site really has proven to buck the trend. X Kay X - ps this is the first place where we haven’t used fake names either -

 

[Stew]

We’ Been on the seance together for 3years now and have only attended clubs. For us we got put off using online due to time wasters so it is very refreshing to see everyone in here being so open and genuine.
For me the biggest peeve is that ok yeah I’m BI and that means it’s an automatic pass. In previous relationship I was prevented from being myself however my hubby and me are of like mindedness which is wonderful. Attending clubs is great but we rarely tell anyone about it and for those trusted few well- it isn’t well received which is ashame.
Wanting to meet people who have the same interests as us is hard when your interest is seen as something taboo or even wrong.
Well I’m just glad I joined here as this site really has proven to buck the trend. X Kay X - ps this is the first place where we haven’t used fake names either -

All welcome here whether it’s for fuckery fun or just banter n chat Xx

 

[Lips_Pearls]

We’ Been on the seance together for 3years now and have only attended clubs. For us we got put off using online due to time wasters so it is very refreshing to see everyone in here being so open and genuine.
For me the biggest peeve is that ok yeah I’m BI and that means it’s an automatic pass. In previous relationship I was prevented from being myself however my hubby and me are of like mindedness which is wonderful. Attending clubs is great but we rarely tell anyone about it and for those trusted few well- it isn’t well received which is ashame.
Wanting to meet people who have the same interests as us is hard when your interest is seen as something taboo or even wrong.
Well I’m just glad I joined here as this site really has proven to buck the trend. X Kay X - ps this is the first place where we haven’t used fake names either -

That's a very positive post you've made there! Kudos to you both x

 

[GeoffRy]

The biggest misconception I have found with swinging is that if you keep pushing with your legs and rocking backwards and forwards then you can actualy get enough speed to go right around the crossbar, whenever I try it I just end up banging my head or falling off backwards.

I have been lied to for years, it just doesnt work. X G