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Admin

Admin
15 September 2014
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And I am on this site.. It says at the top of the page social swinging..lol
I don't need a badge that says registered to tell me I am here and not somewhere else..
Jeeeezzzzz you need some computer lessons..
Xx

Omg you fired @Therapon?

Noooo.... As it happens Mr @Therapon has even had a promotion today.
He's been upgraded :D :D

Everyone is in the registered usergroup by default. Everyone has that, and then based on whether staff, platinum, Platinum + or what have you, the profiles will adjust accordingly.
Now stop trying to cause trouble haha xx
 
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Pearls

MOTM

18 July 2015
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Ok so I click on the user group thing and nothing happens
Nor on any of these labels..
Pointless..
At least make the pretty colours do something..
I
If I was designing it you would click on a pretty colour thingy and it would take you to a place where everyone who had that badge lived
Like I click on staff really long named blue prefect badge and it takes me to their dorm so I see them all.
Or I click on the green less long named badge and I see everyone else with the badge
Or I click on the registered...
Oooops no need to click on that one as everyone has it by default.. See pointless little badge afterall.

You know it makes perfect Bibasense..
I always do.
Oh you going to get in twubble haha xx
 
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Admin

Admin
15 September 2014
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Ok so I click on the user group thing and nothing happens
Nor on any of these labels..
Pointless..
At least make the pretty colours do something..
I
If I was designing it you would click on a pretty colour thingy and it would take you to a place where everyone who had that badge lived
Like I click on staff really long named blue prefect badge and it takes me to their dorm so I see them all.
Or I click on the green less long named badge and I see everyone else with the badge
Or I click on the registered...
Oooops no need to click on that one as everyone has it by default.. See pointless little badge afterall.

You know it makes perfect Bibasense..
I always do.
Now, all you needed to say my lil sugar lump was this;
Can you make the banners clicky so we can see people from that group.

Typical woman, go 3 miles when you only need to go down the road.
Sheesh x
 
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Admin

Admin
15 September 2014
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So @Therapon has been promoted to registered?
And all the other staff members have been demoted to not registered..
Bloody no idea of keeping anything simple has he..
How do you cope with him?
I really am very sorry for you hun..

My thoughts are with you during this tricky time with @Admin.
I am seeing a young man.. Six pack... Ooooo
Who can design websites if you want to borrow him.

Love ya
Xxx
I won't write in here what I just said to @Pearls :D xx
Will do and thank you, tell him to come and chat with me. My number is also readily available and you can ring my bell any time :p
 
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Pearls

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18 July 2015
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So @Therapon has been promoted to registered?
And all the other staff members have been demoted to not registered..
Bloody no idea of keeping anything simple has he..
How do you cope with him?
I really am very sorry for you hun..

My thoughts are with you during this tricky time with @Admin.
I am seeing a young man.. Six pack... Ooooo
Who can design websites if you want to borrow him.

Love ya
Xxx
Oh shit haha I shall have a sneeky peeky doll xx
 
17 December 2015
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If I'm honest we stand in the grey area here. Obviously cheating is wrong but we've had meets where the guy/gal haven't told us until half way through or even the next day. In this situation the guilt was not ours.
At the end of the day it's their decision and their life. Who are we to cast judgement. Alot of people turn to swinging for many different reasons. It's a cloudy area and i dont think theres a right/wrong opinion. It's about how people choose to live their life. I just think each to their own. Just a different perspective I guess. Xxxx


We're also in the grey area here .... it's not something we've done - and again, it's not something we would actively look out for - though there IS a lady who we've met socially, that we know is married, and who told us right at the start, that I would CONSIDER hanging that for - and Mrs@2ofus knows I would) ....

BUT .... it's a really good subject, because we know, from conversations with friends (you know - those conversations you have with people that don't know you're swingers, and the subject of "who would you etc etc" come up?), that to a lot of our friends - ANY sex outside of marriage (or stable relationship even) is "cheating" - with OR without the other partners knowledge.

We've also met swingers over the past year that we've been playing, that ONLY play when their other half is in the room, or THEY consider it "cheating" (or feel as if it would be) - even, again, though they might have their partners explicit permission.

Mrs @2ofus have played same-room, and separate room, and there have been times when she's played and I have only socialised for the evening. There has even been one time whe we were due to go to a club with our regular swing partners, and she had to work, but insisted I go, so that i could tell her what it was like (the only time I've ever been to a club - VA will be her first ever time) ...

So, I think YES it IS personal choice - but also, it's the personal choice of the other person concerned the "cheater" forwant of a better word for them - which in all honesty is a totally unfair term - as is always the case, with ANY relationship, who know's what someone else's life is like behind closed doors?

I guess my point is - from some of my friends points of view (and more importantly I suppose - from my CHILDREN'S points of view, all 4 of whom are old enough to be on here and reading this heaven forbid!! lol then I have cheated on Mrs @2ofus EVERY time we've played - and she on ME - so whether WE believe eachother have cheated or not, in someone else's eyes ..... who knows? And who's opinion is right ... THEIRS, because THEY know that WE'RE married? or OURS becau se WE know we have the other person's permission, and our reasons for doing so? And if it's OURS because we know our own reasons ..... then what of the rights of those people to have THEIR own reasons?

Sorry for the essay - and if it sounds like some sort of sermon .... it certainly didn't start out as either. And as I said, so far (SO FAR) we haven't gone down that path - so this, currently, is just me playing devil's advocate, whilst fairly high on morphine (trust me, it could have far far worse -at least this, as far as I know, is legible ....it isn't always lol).

Apologies again, feel free to edit as you feel necessary @Admin
 
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We're also in the grey area here .... it's not something we've done - and again, it's not something we would actively look out for - though there IS a lady who we've met socially, that we know is married, and who told us right at the start, that I would CONSIDER hanging that for - and Mrs@2ofus knows I would) ....

BUT .... it's a really good subject, because we know, from conversations with friends (you know - those conversations you have with people that don't know you're swingers, and the subject of "who would you etc etc" come up?), that to a lot of our friends - ANY sex outside of marriage (or stable relationship even) is "cheating" - with OR without the other partners knowledge.

We've also met swingers over the past year that we've been playing, that ONLY play when their other half is in the room, or THEY consider it "cheating" (or feel as if it would be) - even, again, though they might have their partners explicit permission.

Mrs @2ofus have played same-room, and separate room, and there have been times when she's played and I have only socialised for the evening. There has even been one time whe we were due to go to a club with our regular swing partners, and she had to work, but insisted I go, so that i could tell her what it was like (the only time I've ever been to a club - VA will be her first ever time) ...

So, I think YES it IS personal choice - but also, it's the personal choice of the other person concerned the "cheater" forwant of a better word for them - which in all honesty is a totally unfair term - as is always the case, with ANY relationship, who know's what someone else's life is like behind closed doors?

I guess my point is - from some of my friends points of view (and more importantly I suppose - from my CHILDREN'S points of view, all 4 of whom are old enough to be on here and reading this heaven forbid!! lol then I have cheated on Mrs @2ofus EVERY time we've played - and she on ME - so whether WE believe eachother have cheated or not, in someone else's eyes ..... who knows? And who's opinion is right ... THEIRS, because THEY know that WE'RE married? or OURS becau se WE know we have the other person's permission, and our reasons for doing so? And if it's OURS because we know our own reasons ..... then what of the rights of those people to have THEIR own reasons?

Sorry for the essay - and if it sounds like some sort of sermon .... it certainly didn't start out as either. And as I said, so far (SO FAR) we haven't gone down that path - so this, currently, is just me playing devil's advocate, whilst fairly high on morphine (trust me, it could have far far worse -at least this, as far as I know, is legible ....it isn't always lol).

Apologies again, feel free to edit as you feel necessary @Admin

Absolutely brilliant reply and just the point I was trying to get at. B you are much better with words than I lol. Xxxx
 
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Admin

Admin
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We're also in the grey area here .... it's not something we've done - and again, it's not something we would actively look out for - though there IS a lady who we've met socially, that we know is married, and who told us right at the start, that I would CONSIDER hanging that for - and Mrs@2ofus knows I would) ....

BUT .... it's a really good subject, because we know, from conversations with friends (you know - those conversations you have with people that don't know you're swingers, and the subject of "who would you etc etc" come up?), that to a lot of our friends - ANY sex outside of marriage (or stable relationship even) is "cheating" - with OR without the other partners knowledge.

We've also met swingers over the past year that we've been playing, that ONLY play when their other half is in the room, or THEY consider it "cheating" (or feel as if it would be) - even, again, though they might have their partners explicit permission.

Mrs @2ofus have played same-room, and separate room, and there have been times when she's played and I have only socialised for the evening. There has even been one time whe we were due to go to a club with our regular swing partners, and she had to work, but insisted I go, so that i could tell her what it was like (the only time I've ever been to a club - VA will be her first ever time) ...

So, I think YES it IS personal choice - but also, it's the personal choice of the other person concerned the "cheater" forwant of a better word for them - which in all honesty is a totally unfair term - as is always the case, with ANY relationship, who know's what someone else's life is like behind closed doors?

I guess my point is - from some of my friends points of view (and more importantly I suppose - from my CHILDREN'S points of view, all 4 of whom are old enough to be on here and reading this heaven forbid!! lol then I have cheated on Mrs @2ofus EVERY time we've played - and she on ME - so whether WE believe eachother have cheated or not, in someone else's eyes ..... who knows? And who's opinion is right ... THEIRS, because THEY know that WE'RE married? or OURS becau se WE know we have the other person's permission, and our reasons for doing so? And if it's OURS because we know our own reasons ..... then what of the rights of those people to have THEIR own reasons?

Sorry for the essay - and if it sounds like some sort of sermon .... it certainly didn't start out as either. And as I said, so far (SO FAR) we haven't gone down that path - so this, currently, is just me playing devil's advocate, whilst fairly high on morphine (trust me, it could have far far worse -at least this, as far as I know, is legible ....it isn't always lol).

Apologies again, feel free to edit as you feel necessary @Admin
Amazing read of your pov & perspective.. and no, no editing necessary :) x

So you see I have on good authority.
An angel came..

Several times
Bibafables
Bibafables :D you never cease to amaze me :p x
 
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17 December 2015
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Thanks. Sorry it was so longwinded .. insomnia and morphine..... blah blah blah
All the "we"'s and "us"'s in there do only refer to Mrs @2ofus and myself.
The thing is ....my first marriage ended because I couldn't deal with my ex's cheating throughout the 6yrs we were narriex.... but on the other hand, if I made her happy, would she have been looking elsewhere? ... (that was my point of what goes on behind closed doors).
I've now been married almost 24 yrs to (and I know how girly this makes me sound) "the love of my life", and when SHE brought up the suggestion of swinging last year, just the idea of it almost tore me apart .... and yet here we are. And happy about it. VERY happy about it. Relationships are complicated. Bad ones AND good ones. (I could have just said that right at the start, or last night, lol)