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Discussion in 'All About Swinging' started by Pearls, 22 February 2016.
This is true me,s bad choo choo...
Lol - yep trouble that @meet_the_fockers always blames everyone else.
Spamming your bumhole - she is a naughty one.
Mare lol neigh lass
Registered means on this site, not registered means not on this site. x
No that is a usergroup all members are in, who are not administrators. x
Noooo.... As it happens Mr @Therapon has even had a promotion today.
He's been upgraded
Everyone is in the registered usergroup by default. Everyone has that, and then based on whether staff, platinum, Platinum + or what have you, the profiles will adjust accordingly.
Now stop trying to cause trouble haha xx
Oh you going to get in twubble haha xx
Oh god... Im off xx
Now, all you needed to say my lil sugar lump was this;
Can you make the banners clicky so we can see people from that group.
Typical woman, go 3 miles when you only need to go down the road.
Hmmm I will make a note of this. x
I won't write in here what I just said to @Pearls xx
Will do and thank you, tell him to come and chat with me. My number is also readily available and you can ring my bell any time
Oh shit haha I shall have a sneeky peeky doll xx
We're also in the grey area here .... it's not something we've done - and again, it's not something we would actively look out for - though there IS a lady who we've met socially, that we know is married, and who told us right at the start, that I would CONSIDER hanging that for - and Mrs@2ofus knows I would) ....
BUT .... it's a really good subject, because we know, from conversations with friends (you know - those conversations you have with people that don't know you're swingers, and the subject of "who would you etc etc" come up?), that to a lot of our friends - ANY sex outside of marriage (or stable relationship even) is "cheating" - with OR without the other partners knowledge.
We've also met swingers over the past year that we've been playing, that ONLY play when their other half is in the room, or THEY consider it "cheating" (or feel as if it would be) - even, again, though they might have their partners explicit permission.
Mrs @2ofus have played same-room, and separate room, and there have been times when she's played and I have only socialised for the evening. There has even been one time whe we were due to go to a club with our regular swing partners, and she had to work, but insisted I go, so that i could tell her what it was like (the only time I've ever been to a club - VA will be her first ever time) ...
So, I think YES it IS personal choice - but also, it's the personal choice of the other person concerned the "cheater" forwant of a better word for them - which in all honesty is a totally unfair term - as is always the case, with ANY relationship, who know's what someone else's life is like behind closed doors?
I guess my point is - from some of my friends points of view (and more importantly I suppose - from my CHILDREN'S points of view, all 4 of whom are old enough to be on here and reading this heaven forbid!! lol then I have cheated on Mrs @2ofus EVERY time we've played - and she on ME - so whether WE believe eachother have cheated or not, in someone else's eyes ..... who knows? And who's opinion is right ... THEIRS, because THEY know that WE'RE married? or OURS becau se WE know we have the other person's permission, and our reasons for doing so? And if it's OURS because we know our own reasons ..... then what of the rights of those people to have THEIR own reasons?
Sorry for the essay - and if it sounds like some sort of sermon .... it certainly didn't start out as either. And as I said, so far (SO FAR) we haven't gone down that path - so this, currently, is just me playing devil's advocate, whilst fairly high on morphine (trust me, it could have far far worse -at least this, as far as I know, is legible ....it isn't always lol).
Apologies again, feel free to edit as you feel necessary @Admin
Absolutely brilliant reply and just the point I was trying to get at. B you are much better with words than I lol. Xxxx
he is @Pearls, he is, don't you listen to that nasty @Mr-Biba and their rumour-mongering!!
Amazing read of your pov & perspective.. and no, no editing necessary x
Bibafables you never cease to amaze me x
I have a vague idea.. a few F,s and tw*ts in there
@2ofus great explanation.. of your veiws. x
Thanks. Sorry it was so longwinded .. insomnia and morphine..... blah blah blah
All the "we"'s and "us"'s in there do only refer to Mrs @2ofus and myself.
The thing is ....my first marriage ended because I couldn't deal with my ex's cheating throughout the 6yrs we were narriex.... but on the other hand, if I made her happy, would she have been looking elsewhere? ... (that was my point of what goes on behind closed doors).
I've now been married almost 24 yrs to (and I know how girly this makes me sound) "the love of my life", and when SHE brought up the suggestion of swinging last year, just the idea of it almost tore me apart .... and yet here we are. And happy about it. VERY happy about it. Relationships are complicated. Bad ones AND good ones. (I could have just said that right at the start, or last night, lol)