So, What Do You Consider Yourself To Be In The Bdsm Lifestyle..?

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What do you consider yourself to be in the BDSM lifestyle..?

  • A Dom

    Votes: 8 18.6%

  • A Domme

    Votes: 1 2.3%

  • A sub

    Votes: 25 58.1%

  • A little

    Votes: 1 2.3%

  • A Daddy Dom

    Votes: 2 4.7%

  • A Switch

    Votes: 22 51.2%
  • Total voters
    43
Scott&Lexi

Scott&Lexi

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meet_the_fockers said:
Youd make a very nice sub.. but you would take some taming. :rofl: xx
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haha yes I agree! I think I'm likely to have a red behind on more than one occasion!

Well I have a regular who says he is a dominate but I've never seen that side to him!

Out of the blue last night he started talking about putting rules in place giving commands!

You know me rules are set to bend ;)

I felt I did very well during my phone messaging instructions, as My nature is I love to please whatever that maybe, but when I was not given the go ahead to orgasm! A reward for my good behaviour!

Wow I got a grumpy little soul! I rebelled hard! As I expected!

He said I never asked and I was tested to see how I'd play not a slave.... I didn't know this or the difference!

So I'm still grumpy :lol:

Although I bloody orgasmed many times and videod and photo took the evidence of my misbehaving without permission!

So I'm now a very naughty girl apparently, but in my defence and after reading on here no clear guidence was given and I have no idea about this stuff! Xx
 
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Miss-Sexy-Legs

Miss-Sexy-Legs

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@Lexi if this is to be ongoing you both need to know each others wants and needs a whole lot more then you can read into what each wants by the voice or text ,are you looking to be a slave or be the submissive ?
 
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Scott&Lexi

Scott&Lexi

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Miss-Sexy-Legs said:
@Lexi if this is to be ongoing you both need to know each others wants and needs a whole lot more then you can read into what each wants by the voice or text ,are you looking to be a slave or be the submissive ?
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Definitely not a slave I'd be throttled for my rebellious nature!

I suppose I wanted to play submissive but I'm not sure if I'm just too wild for this role!

We are not a couple but I do meet him on a regular basis and in fact I've allowed him into my home last week which is very very unusual for me!

When I did I felt vunerable so he saw a very different side to me which made him want to be more dominating in the bedroom!

I do love to please and I enjoyed the game but when I did not feel rewarded for my behaviour wow I was back to feisty me!

I would like to see if this Dom submissive thing would be something we could enjoy together!

I've never experienced this role at all... I'm just unsure where to start and feel I need clear guidance xx
 
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meet_the_fockers

Lexi said:
haha yes I agree! I think I'm likely to have a red behind on more than one occasion!

Well I have a regular who says he is a dominate but I've never seen that side to him!

Out of the blue last night he started talking about putting rules in place giving commands!

You know me rules are set to bend ;)

I felt I did very well during my phone messaging instructions, as My nature is I love to please whatever that maybe, but when I was not given the go ahead to orgasm! A reward for my good behaviour!

Wow I got a grumpy little soul! I rebelled hard! As I expected!

He said I never asked and I was tested to see how I'd play not a slave.... I didn't know this or the difference!

So I'm still grumpy :lol:

Although I bloody orgasmed many times and videod and photo took the evidence of my misbehaving without permission!

So I'm now a very naughty girl apparently, but in my defence and after reading on here no clear guidence was given and I have no idea about this stuff! Xx
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Take your time.. communication is most definately key.. xxx
 
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meet_the_fockers

Lexi said:
Haha that made me giggle!!! :lol:

you know I'm the rebellious type and I will push these instructions to the limit!!

I mean I'm not going to be easy to tame at all! Xx
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Lol oh i know dalin.. i like a challenge. X
 
Phoenixcouplexx

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I would define the difference between sub and slave as:
A sub has a right to an opinion a slave doesn't.
A sub has soft limits and hard limits a slave doesn't.
A sub has the right to negotiate and ask for 'things' in return for their submission a slave has no right to expect anything.
A sub has choices and a slave only has one which is do as ordered or ask to be released.
Agreeing a Master/Slave relationship is actually quite a rare occurrence in my experience and something that should definitely, 100% not be taken lightly atall.
We can play hard at times but I don't want my submissive's free will. A slave is not for me...
I would definitely advise that if anyone claims to know a lot about the D/s lifestyle tread very carefully until they have PROVED to you that they actually do know what they are talking about.
Slow and steady every time is the way forward...

Xx
 
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Scott&Lexi

Scott&Lexi

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Phoenixcouplexx said:
I would define the difference between sub and slave as:
A sub has a right to an opinion a slave doesn't.
A sub has soft limits and hard limits a slave doesn't.
A sub has the right to negotiate and ask for 'things' in return for their submission a slave has no right to expect anything.
A sub has choices and a slave only has one which is do as ordered or ask to be released.
Agreeing a Master/Slave relationship is actually quite a rare occurrence in my experience and something that should definitely, 100% not be taken lightly atall.
We can play hard at times but I don't want my submissive's free will. A slave is not for me...
I would definitely that claims to know a lot about the D/s lifestyle tread very carefully until they have PROVED to you that they actually do know what they are talking about.
Slow and steady every time is the way forward...

Xx
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Thank you! Very much appreciated xx
 
Antogs

Antogs

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I've put myself down as a switch although I do veer towards the dominant side.
It obviously depends on who I'm with. I'm happiest taking control but have no problem with a woman who wishes to be dominant. I guess I just love the whole idea of dressing in BDSM gear and having great sex with a kinky woman/women LOL
Ant xx
 

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Hmmmm. Did I post a pic of all my many toys and equipment on my bed?

Can' recall ;) will check later and post lol
 
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